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  1. AngryMetalsmith

    AngryMetalsmith Business is good, thanks for asking

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    Anyone ever had to deal with a stalker ?

    About eight years ago I created a fake Facebook account to find out who was trying to reach me through a local person. Turns out it was a woman whom I haven't had any contact since I was 13 years old. I have no interest in talking to her since she represents a painful part of my childhood. So I didn't respond to her attempts to make contact, thinking she would go away.

    A couple years ago or so she started liking my business Facebook page. She then sent a friend request which I declined. A few days ago she sent me an email to which I have not responded. Then today I get a text from an area code different from her home state, stating that she was trying to get a hold of me. Also did not respond to this attempt as well.

    This is getting creepy. I have not thought about this person, nor had any contact since she moved when I was thirteen years old. And I really don't know what to do. I intensely do not like having to relive some past horrible experiences for this psycho.

    Any thoughts my trusted Monkey brethren ?
     

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  2. stoney

    stoney Part of the unwashed, middle-American horde

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    Find an attorney to send a cease and desist order?
     
  3. TN

    TN Hey baby, want a hot dog?

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    Id hit it
     
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    jonKranked Press Button, Receive Stupid

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    douse yourself in patchouli first.
     
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    jonKranked Press Button, Receive Stupid

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    have jimmydean take her for "a ride in the corvette"
     
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  6. TN

    TN Hey baby, want a hot dog?

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    just a drop dude. just a drop. gotta be sure those pheromones aren't covered up.
     
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    rideit Bob the Builder

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    Post her personal info on 4chan.
     
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    jonKranked Press Button, Receive Stupid

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    RIP DirtMcGirk. he would have made this EPIC.
     
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  9. AngryMetalsmith

    AngryMetalsmith Business is good, thanks for asking

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    I know a few local attorneys, but would a letter from one local to her be more effective ?
     
  10. AngryMetalsmith

    AngryMetalsmith Business is good, thanks for asking

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    Hell yeah he would have.
     
  11. jonKranked

    jonKranked Press Button, Receive Stupid

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    if its across state lines, no. use one local to you.
     
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  12. RoboDonkey713

    RoboDonkey713 Monkey

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    Have you told her that you do not want to talk to her? If it brings up stuff from your past that you have moved on from, she needs to respect that. If she can't, cease and desist or even call the cops see if they have any options for you. Good Luck.
     
  13. AngryMetalsmith

    AngryMetalsmith Business is good, thanks for asking

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    I would think that non-response to her attempts and a denied FB friend request should be sufficient. I absolutely should not have to communicate to this person that I don't want anything to do with them. I wish she would just take the fucking hint.

    I do like the thought of her getting an attorney letter in the mail though.
     
  14. Westy

    Westy the teste

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    Does it make sense to pay an attorney to write a letter to say fuck off before doing it yourself?\

    Personally I would make contact but communicate strictly via bear gifs.

     
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  15. Westy

    Westy the teste

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    You should tell here to sign up on RM and communicate via this thread. Only awesomeness would ensue. I'm sure we all could chip in and get her a hoodie.
     
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  16. jdcamb

    jdcamb Tool Time!

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    Cease and Desist is only a good option if she gets local. If she is another state not much will/can happen. Gaining useful recent info on her through a intermediary will be your best bet. Then a restraining order will have more teeth. NC also has a Electronic harassment law, but once again it only has teeth in NC. Since she has contacted you at your business. That is outside the normal instance of casual contact. If you have advised her to not contact you already, then you should do so immediately. Then and only then can further contact be described as a cyber stalking crime. The law in NC is rather unclear. I would get advisement from Counsel just to be sure.
     
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  17. Jm_

    Jm_ Turbo Monkey

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    Take her to a Megadeth concert, that usually fixes this.
     
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  18. KenW449

    KenW449 something stupid

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    canadmos Mater Slayer

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    piihb




    But really I'd fabricate a firm response telling her to not contact you under any circumstances. If she still does, escalate the matter.
     
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  20. Jm_

    Jm_ Turbo Monkey

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    And if not, take her mountain biking. That’ll seal the deal.
     
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  21. junkyard

    junkyard You might feel a little prick.

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    I was beat to PIIHB. Theres this trick i used to do when i wanted to get rid of a girl. Tell her you love her. If that doesnt work tell her you want to get married and have lots of kids "now" like 9 kids and she cooks and cleans. But i haven't tried that since i was in my 20's. It may not work for the 30's plus crowd of women. Also are you already married? Tell her you want her to be your shed wife. She lives in a shed in the yard and you only PIIHB when you feel like it and she does what your wife says.

    Have you thought that maybe she wants to apologize or work through some issues. Ten minutes now could save you hours later.
     
  22. KenW449

    KenW449 something stupid

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    And switching to Geico could save you 15% or more on car insurance!
     
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  23. stevew

    stevew unique white person

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    just a drop on ye olde taint....
     
  24. stevew

    stevew unique white person

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    a friend of my brothers dealt with it this way with a clingy ex in college....shit in a cooler....put cooler in a boc....mailed box to ex.
     
  25. jonKranked

    jonKranked Press Button, Receive Stupid

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    Here's the perfect response:

    "Do I want to be your friend?
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  26. rideit

    rideit Bob the Builder

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    Maybe she got sober and is working the steps? Sounds like you DGAF though
     
  27. JohnE

    JohnE filthy rascist

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    Any idea why she wants to be friends? Maybe she has a big check from Ed McMahon that was left at the old house for you.

    As much as may pain you, I would suggest a terse but polite email response to her telling her essentially what you told us above, and ending with something along the lines of "...please do not attempt to contact me again."
     
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  28. jstuhlman

    jstuhlman We noticed.

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    have you tried
    ???
     
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    Pretty close to what I was thinking, absent more details on the nature of past wrongs...
     
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    stevew unique white person

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    not a lawyer but i did sleep at a holiday inn express....
     
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    4130biker PM me about Tantrum Cycles!

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    eric strt6 Resident Curmudgeon

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  33. AngryMetalsmith

    AngryMetalsmith Business is good, thanks for asking

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    I have know idea why she wants to talk to me. And for all I know it may not be for friendly reasons. She could be a complete psycho, Hell bent on fucking with people. I am not going to assume her intentions are good.

    If I respond to any of her attempts it's confirmation that she's found me. Right know based on what I know, she doesn't know for sure it it's me or not. No pics of me on either FB pages.

    Got another text from her when I got done riding. She promises that she's not a stalker and wants to "know if this is he or buzz off or something."
     
  34. jstuhlman

    jstuhlman We noticed.

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    send her a bag of gummy dicks?
     
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  35. JohnE

    JohnE filthy rascist

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    I dont know...sounds pretty stalker-ish to me. Especially if this has been going on for 8+ years...

    Do you know anyone back in the old neighborhood that you would trust to investigate her motives?
     
  36. AngryMetalsmith

    AngryMetalsmith Business is good, thanks for asking

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    It hasn't been 8+ years consecutively. Started around 2009 with a few attempts, then nothing until a year or two ago.

    No, no one to contact back there. She moved when I was 13 and I haven't talked to her in the past three decades and then some.
     
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    How about u just ask her what she wants and tell her youre not interested?
     
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  38. Pesqueeb

    Pesqueeb bicycle in airplane hangar

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    Really?

    No ones going to comment on how much @jdcamb seems to know about Cease and Desist and/or restraining orders and whether they are enforceable across state lines?

    You all disappoint me.
     
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  39. Pesqueeb

    Pesqueeb bicycle in airplane hangar

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    Seriously though. JD and stoney offering good advice. An initial consult with a lawyer ought to be free, and if need be, it sounds like it might be worth it to you to just pay whatever to make it all legal.
     
  40. jonKranked

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    a little context might be good. was she the neighborhood cougar? or more of the crazy cat lady that would give out random household objects at halloween?