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Facebook dilemma...

JohnE

filthy rascist
May 13, 2005
13,430
1,949
Front Range, dude...
So the whole Facebook thing is getting out of hand. Now my ex wife has added me as a "friend". We have a decent relationship, because of my 16 y/o son with her, but if it wasnt for him, she would be a non entity...

Do I let her into my Facebook circle? What do Monkeys think?
 

Kanye West

220# bag of hacktastic
Aug 31, 2006
3,740
470
I believe you can limit certain peoples "rights" when it comes to viewing your info and activity. I learned this with a certain bat**** crazy stalker chick.
 

geargrrl

Turbo Monkey
May 2, 2002
2,379
1
pnw -dry side
she shouldn't be able to add you with out your permission, and you can unfriend her with out her knowing it.

If you have to have her, I'd set it for minimum permissions. You have to poke around to set them all but it may be worth it.
 

stevew

resident influencer
Sep 21, 2001
40,494
9,524
another one of lifes riddles i can answer myself.....
 

punkassean

Turbo Monkey
Feb 3, 2002
4,561
0
SC, CA
just don't accept her if you don't want to. she will probably never notice since facebook doesn't email you to tell you someone accepted you and she is most likely new to FB so she is probably adding lots of people making it more likely she'll not notice. Also she could just assume you don't frequent FB and since she's not your friend she can;t view your profile to prove otherwise. As a last resort you can always set your privacy settings so your virtually invisible. Your photo (and even posts I believe) can be made only visible by your friends.
 

Austin Bike

Turbo Monkey
Jan 26, 2003
1,558
0
Duh, Austin
you can put her in a special group by herself and manage what she sees.

Stinky, the reason he has a 16-year-old son is why he SHOULD be on facebook. You can keep up with what your kid is up to.
 

Kanye West

220# bag of hacktastic
Aug 31, 2006
3,740
470
If I were TheMooShu's dad, I would start by looking through his posts on Ridemonkey, then beating him with household objects.

Facebook would be second.
 

BIGHITR

WINNING!
Nov 14, 2007
1,084
0
Maryland, east coast.
Face book is a great place to meet other women to start a new relationship. He did say she was an X. Friends have friends and sometimes they see your comment on a buddy's page and then come ask if they can be a friend. It's a better set up than myspace which is all kids. As to letting her in, are you getting any still? If so, yes. If no, NO! Just don't answer her request. She want's to keep up with what you're up to and will see all your comments and doings online and with who. She might even send them emails saying nasty things about you to prevent you from meeting people. I'd say no to her.
 

IH8Rice

I'm Mr. Negative! I Fail!
Aug 2, 2008
24,524
494
Im over here now
Stinky, the reason he has a 16-year-old son is why he SHOULD be on facebook. You can keep up with what your kid is up to.
your new name is now Debbie Downer.





JohnE- accept the request and post comments about how great you are doing being single and not married....and how much poontang you are getting (if you are)
 

JohnE

filthy rascist
May 13, 2005
13,430
1,949
Front Range, dude...
Thanks IH8...but I am remarried, and the ex and the current HATE each other. May be a good reason to say yes...

And Stink, I think you are talking about the MySpace. It seems to be the place for the teen types.

I think she will get ignored. Just like she used to do when I would ask about the child support he was supposed to send me....
 

stinkyboy

Plastic Santa
Jan 6, 2005
15,187
1
¡Phoenix!
And Stink, I think you are talking about the MySpace. It seems to be the place for the teen types..

Social stalking sites are for kids and freaks with the exception of LinkedIn. Wait, that site blows too. If I quit a job, I need weakness from my last job following me?

Stick 'n move...

If you want to contact people, send them an email, text or make a call.

:bonk:
 

Ciaran

Fear my banana
Apr 5, 2004
9,839
15
So Cal
Social stalking sites are for kids and freaks with the exception of LinkedIn. Wait, that site blows too. If I quit a job, I need weakness from my last job following me?

Stick 'n move...

If you want to contact people, send them an email, text or make a call.

:bonk:

When all your friends and aquaintances are using a social networking site, it kinda makes you the odd man out if you're not using it. My wife talked me into creating a Facebook page last week. I have since been in contact with many people I only see 3 or 4 times a year at the big medieval events we do. I have met no new people, and have ignored those I do not know. Works fine for me, and I hate social networking sites.
 

?????

Turbo Monkey
Jun 20, 2005
1,678
2
San Francisco
Social stalking sites are for kids and freaks with the exception of LinkedIn. Wait, that site blows too. If I quit a job, I need weakness from my last job following me?

Stick 'n move...

If you want to contact people, send them an email, text or make a call.

:bonk:
Why even bother with that new-fabled computer technology when you can write a letter and drop it off in your mailbox?
 

elRey

Turbo Monkey
how is facebook such an important part of your life that you would take time to think about who you want added as a "friend" much less start a thread??? that **** is fake. its the internet.

also if you have a teenager that is on facebook, save them the embarrassment and don't join.
 

TreeSaw

Mama Monkey
Oct 30, 2003
17,669
1,847
Dancin' over rocks n' roots!
she shouldn't be able to add you with out your permission, and you can unfriend her with out her knowing it.

If you have to have her, I'd set it for minimum permissions. You have to poke around to set them all but it may be worth it.
:stupid: I have some former students that "friended me" and I wasn't sure what to do, but like to see what they're doing in college and am friends with their parents so I went for it.
 

BurlyShirley

Rex Grossman Will Rise Again
Jul 4, 2002
19,180
17
TN
Grow up and cancel facebook. RM is the only legitimate social internet activity for sophisticated adults such as ourselves.
 

jonKranked

Detective Dookie
Nov 10, 2005
85,573
24,191
media blackout
When all your friends and aquaintances are using a social networking site, it kinda makes you the odd man out if you're not using it. My wife talked me into creating a Facebook page last week. I have since been in contact with many people I only see 3 or 4 times a year at the big medieval events we do. I have met no new people, and have ignored those I do not know. Works fine for me, and I hate social networking sites.
wait wait wait wait wait... please don't tell me you dress up too. Fvcking dark ages larping.
 

JohnE

filthy rascist
May 13, 2005
13,430
1,949
Front Range, dude...
I always wondered if they have leper colonies and black plague victims at those medieval fairs...

I enjoys me the Facebook...all you haters be darned! It is interesting to see how people I grew up with have evolved.
 

jonKranked

Detective Dookie
Nov 10, 2005
85,573
24,191
media blackout
I always wondered if they have leper colonies and black plague victims at those medieval fairs...

I enjoys me the Facebook...all you haters be darned! It is interesting to see how people I grew up with have evolved.
Or haven't, as is the case with a lot of people I went to high school with.

I've even learned that one of my former classmates can be looked up under Megan's law :twitch:
 

G-Cracker

Monkey
May 2, 2002
528
0
Tucson, beatch!
My Xwife friended me on Facebook when she joined. We don't really stay in contact but still have a group of mutual friends. It's interesting to see her status changes after her nights of partying and her on/off again relationship with her stoner boyfriend.

It just reaffirms why I'm not with her anymore.:happydance:
 

Ithnu

Monkey
Jul 16, 2007
961
0
Denver
When all your friends and aquaintances are using a social networking site, it kinda makes you the odd man out if you're not using it.
I don't have a facebook and when my friend wanted to go on a weekend bike trip that he announced on facebook he knew I wouldn't see it. Soooooooo..........he called:shocked:
 

dan wask

Turbo Monkey
May 11, 2006
1,463
0
B-More Maryland
Stinky, the reason he has a 16-year-old son is why he SHOULD be on facebook. You can keep up with what your kid is up to.
Cut me a break, if your child is 16 you should respect your him/her enough to stay out of their private lives. When you start snooping around their text messages, aim conversations, facebook/myspace pages, you're being over protective.
 

stinkyboy

Plastic Santa
Jan 6, 2005
15,187
1
¡Phoenix!
My Xwife friended me on Facebook when she joined. We don't really stay in contact but still have a group of mutual friends. It's interesting to see her status changes after her nights of partying and her on/off again relationship with her stoner boyfriend.

It just reaffirms why I'm not with her anymore.:happydance:
But dude, I love her!