bridges are meant to be destroyed when no longer safe. I don't hate all women, just the ones i've put myself inside.
Divorce ...Is it really the fix one hopes for?
- Thread starter SloMoJo
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Not hoping for the halo. I just believe in hating individuals. And Mexicans.
Yeah, google maps doesn't work here at all...
I think it's about 20 hours door to door. 3 flights.
Dakar-Paris
Paris-Amsterdam
Amsterdam-Van
Long day. In 1 week.
Amateurs.
Jesus, Satan himself makes a showing! Good to see you old man!
I guess it worries me to think that I could personally get so bitter about the women I have had in my life (the most recent ex removed from that pool) that it would poison the rest of any hope I could ever have for having a healthy, productive relationship.
Some of the women I have been with have been really bad, horribly sideways, uber sloots. But if I let them color my view, I'd need to join the Catholic priesthood and start ****ing young boys.
Just don't let hate color you so deeply that you need to start face humping young boys or dead hookers, that's all I am saying.
After 7 it's all a blur.
Can you just write up a general form of this letter and post it. We can fill in the names as needed.
I feel like this could have many applications.
WUT
I got negative repped for that post but a one Colonel Angus. It would appear that the colonel is a super sensitive nancy who takes everything as absolute truth. Nothing on a forum, as ridiculous as it might read is ever, ever, ever meant to be humorous.
+ rep coming your way blackohio for hating women and knowing there all evil !
I got divorced this year, with a kid. If you think all divorces are bad for the kid, that's just ignorant thinking. My ex and I are still friends and do well coparenting our daughter. She has taken it well and I think she gets more attention now. Some relationships run their course and people change over time. My ex and I started dating when I was 20 and she was 18....at 30, we weren't even remotely the same people, nor were we happy together. I'm in no rush to get married again (prolly will someday), but I did start dating a super cool chick that rides and is a lawyer. Hot, smart, makes good money, and rides bikes...sounds like an upgrade all the way around! Most importantly, she's good with my daughter.
I don't always get offended
But when I do, I do it on Ridemonkey
who would have thought SloMoJo was a Poet ......
DING DING.
Winna!
That's what it's about. That's all it's about. Love, and compromising to make it work.
I haven’t been to the Lounge in years and lo and behold what a wonderful thread I’ve discovered……..
MMike, dude fellow aviation nerd…..so sorry to hear about what’s going on with you.
So go pour yourself some coffee and settle in, I’ll share my story with you. Go ahead I’ll wait…………
Parents divorced at 12, dad left to go sow his oats……well sow them without worry of being caught by his wife. Other than seeing him every other weekend, he wasn’t in our (there were 3 of us kids) lives. I was the oldest, felt obligated to be the “man of the house”. My mother met a great guy when I was 15, they married when I was 18. I refer to my step-dad as my dad, he spent way more time with me and helped me through life than my bio-dad did. Mom and step dad moved out of state day before I left for college, meant I had to live with bio-dad. Didn’t go well, met a girl went to college together. Thought at some point she’d have sex with me, f’d around A LOT on her. Got married to her when I was 22, divorced not long after that.
Met another, at the time, HOT girl who did put out, but was BAT **** crazy!!! Thought I could over look it, got married. Had a kid together (I thought that might “fix” things as well). After literally raising our son by myself (ex. first night home after having him she refused to feed him) for 3 years I had enough. I didn’t want to get divorced when he was older, but I knew I could not stick this out. Got divorced and actually get along 100% better than we did when we were married.
Met my best friend, we are so alike in so many ways I call her my “mini me”. Sounds sappy, but she is the smartest, hardest working, patient, loving…….you get the picture, woman I have ever met. We’ve been together 5 years and have a “Brady bunch” family, she has two teenage daughters. My wife has been a fantastic mother figure to my son, she is the how my step-dad was for me. We’ve had some pretty serious difficulties in that 5 years, but we’ve weathered them as if we’ve been together for 20+ years. There is hope out there……….
I’ve come to the conclusion, that most, not all women are seriously crazy as sh!t. There are maybe 5 women that I have met in my life that I can stand to be around for more than 5 minutes, thankfully my wife is one of them. You’d think I’m exaggerating, but I’m totally not, after 5 minutes I just want to throat punch them. They tend to be either blatantly emotionally messed up and needy, some strange mix of pure evil and premeditated deception, or just plain stupid as a log with no desire to become “un stupid”.
Anyway, I hope that was some pleasant Wednesday morning reading with your coffee.
MMike, dude fellow aviation nerd…..so sorry to hear about what’s going on with you.
So go pour yourself some coffee and settle in, I’ll share my story with you. Go ahead I’ll wait…………
Parents divorced at 12, dad left to go sow his oats……well sow them without worry of being caught by his wife. Other than seeing him every other weekend, he wasn’t in our (there were 3 of us kids) lives. I was the oldest, felt obligated to be the “man of the house”. My mother met a great guy when I was 15, they married when I was 18. I refer to my step-dad as my dad, he spent way more time with me and helped me through life than my bio-dad did. Mom and step dad moved out of state day before I left for college, meant I had to live with bio-dad. Didn’t go well, met a girl went to college together. Thought at some point she’d have sex with me, f’d around A LOT on her. Got married to her when I was 22, divorced not long after that.
Met another, at the time, HOT girl who did put out, but was BAT **** crazy!!! Thought I could over look it, got married. Had a kid together (I thought that might “fix” things as well). After literally raising our son by myself (ex. first night home after having him she refused to feed him) for 3 years I had enough. I didn’t want to get divorced when he was older, but I knew I could not stick this out. Got divorced and actually get along 100% better than we did when we were married.
Met my best friend, we are so alike in so many ways I call her my “mini me”. Sounds sappy, but she is the smartest, hardest working, patient, loving…….you get the picture, woman I have ever met. We’ve been together 5 years and have a “Brady bunch” family, she has two teenage daughters. My wife has been a fantastic mother figure to my son, she is the how my step-dad was for me. We’ve had some pretty serious difficulties in that 5 years, but we’ve weathered them as if we’ve been together for 20+ years. There is hope out there……….
I’ve come to the conclusion, that most, not all women are seriously crazy as sh!t. There are maybe 5 women that I have met in my life that I can stand to be around for more than 5 minutes, thankfully my wife is one of them. You’d think I’m exaggerating, but I’m totally not, after 5 minutes I just want to throat punch them. They tend to be either blatantly emotionally messed up and needy, some strange mix of pure evil and premeditated deception, or just plain stupid as a log with no desire to become “un stupid”.
Anyway, I hope that was some pleasant Wednesday morning reading with your coffee.
I had a great time last night. Took the ex to the company "party" and enjoyed the hell out of myself. I work with a small group (11 folks in my office) of crazy smart folks. She was a little out of place, but I was at home. It was a lot like our Friday team lunches with a few guests and additional beers. The team went to Ground Kontrol after dinner, but we had to head home to get our daughter in bed.
We seem to get along great when there is no label on the situation.
We seem to get along great when there is no label on the situation.
I was in Mexico when this thread was really going, so I finally just got around to reading it. I'm not pointing fingers, but some of y'all have got issues.
Married when I was 24, her 21. 10.5 years of marriage to the girl I took to my senior prom. Been through some sh*t, almost made my wife a widow when she was 25, and honestly I'm not sure the year that followed was much better than what she would have had to deal with if I had died. Fvck if I know what the secret is, but honestly I've never been happier. We've had our arguments of course and we don't see eye to eye on everything, but as someone said earlier, compromise is key. I think if anything ever happened to my wife or my marriage, I can't possibly imagine getting married again.
Married when I was 24, her 21. 10.5 years of marriage to the girl I took to my senior prom. Been through some sh*t, almost made my wife a widow when she was 25, and honestly I'm not sure the year that followed was much better than what she would have had to deal with if I had died. Fvck if I know what the secret is, but honestly I've never been happier. We've had our arguments of course and we don't see eye to eye on everything, but as someone said earlier, compromise is key. I think if anything ever happened to my wife or my marriage, I can't possibly imagine getting married again.
That would create a label and it would suck again. As long as it isn't called anything...
JD is gonna be one of "those guys" that re-marries his ex.
I think the label thing is significant for some folks. I have been with Hilarie since 1969, do your own math, and there have been times in the relationship, none recent, in which, had we been married, we might have gone the divorce route.That would create a label and it would suck again. As long as it isn't called anything...
Without the label of "married", I find it easier to see that it's what choose to I do, not a label, that frames and can affect what I'm experiencing.
This is an issue she has and we have identified. It seems like she has the same feelings of being together because you want to be, not because the law or the state, or even a church says so. I could care either way, personally. But knowing there is an easy (non-legal) out makes a difference to some folks, I guess.
I appreciate the kind words, (and pity rep).
Perhaps once all is said and done, I will recount the tale of woe, intrigue, infidelity, and general unpleasantness.
I think it would actually make a good book....or even a movie. Starring Ryan Reynolds as me. And Steve Buscemi as Da Peach.
Perhaps once all is said and done, I will recount the tale of woe, intrigue, infidelity, and general unpleasantness.
I think it would actually make a good book....or even a movie. Starring Ryan Reynolds as me. And Steve Buscemi as Da Peach.
Sorry Mike. That is truly lame. Your fowl peckerwoodness aside, you seem to be a great dad who really cares for his two girls, so it must be horrible having to go through this. Wish you the best man.
Maybe get yourself some Neil Young albums to help soothe your pain. Nobody plays a harmonica neck brace like him.....
Guys always get the bad rap in terms of cheating but I swear I've seen more marriages end from women cheating than the other way around.
That's simply due to statistics.
Chance of your average married dude who wants to cheat finding and getting poosay: 18%
Chance of your average married chick who wants to cheat finding and getting d1ck: 100%
It sucks when it doesn't work out, especially with kids. I think I am the only person I know that is married where my parents are still married and her parents are still married...
Sorry MMike, maybe this will help:
Wow ... I did not know how this post would go over after the initial responses, but you guys made this an interesting and valuable read. Good job.
Divorce sucks - not ifs, ands or buts about it.
I'm divorced. Didn't want to be, but my ex-had an affair and wanted out. Not much you can do to try and patch things up when one of the two parties involved wants nothing to do with trying to work things through.
I'm happy now, but it still sucks and always will suck - why? Because of the kids involved.
But you have to make the best of a sucky situation. that's what I've been trying to do ever since the papers were signed.
With that said - if there is even a glimmer of a chance for reconciliation (and especially if you have kids) then at least try!
Best to all,
MMcG
I'm divorced. Didn't want to be, but my ex-had an affair and wanted out. Not much you can do to try and patch things up when one of the two parties involved wants nothing to do with trying to work things through.
I'm happy now, but it still sucks and always will suck - why? Because of the kids involved.
But you have to make the best of a sucky situation. that's what I've been trying to do ever since the papers were signed.
With that said - if there is even a glimmer of a chance for reconciliation (and especially if you have kids) then at least try!
Best to all,
MMcG
friends with benefits is the phrase you are looking for.
JD is gonna be one of "those guys" that re-marries his ex.