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big-ted

big-ted

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Sep 27, 2005
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Am I being a jerk? My cousin is getting married this year. We've never been close. Nothing against her or her family, but my mum fell out with her entire family when I was young, with the result that I just never saw them that often. I now live on a different continent. My gran (who I still speak to quite often, but haven't seen in a while) is pressuring me to attend the wedding. I've not received an invite, although it is still pretty early.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm happy for my cousin and wish her all the best, but I can't help but feel she probably has a long list of friends she'd rather have at her wedding than me. This is all about my gran wanting to keep up family appearances. I've made it quite clear I'm going to try and get back and see her (my gran) this year but, honestly, I'd rather do so at a time other than the wedding when people aren't running around like headless chickens and I can actually relax and chat with people.

Ugh...
 
eric strt6

eric strt6

Resident Curmudgeon
Sep 8, 2001
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No, I rarely go to family gatherings, Mine or the wifes. Aside from two cousins, my sister and my dad I really have nothing to say or want to say to the rest of the clan. Unless the Wedding is held is someplace really cool where I could go do stuff that I want to do, and I had an invite, and the spare time, and the extra cash, all I would do is send a card....if that.
 
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kazlx

kazlx

Patches O'Houlihan
Aug 7, 2006
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Not at all. I hang out with the people I care about and the rest can suck it. Maybe you'll get lucky and not even get an invite. Problem solved.
 
jimmydean

jimmydean

The Official Meat of Ridemonkey
Sep 10, 2001
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Portland, OR
Just be easy on gran and let her know you would like to make it but can't due to an issue with something kinda not real, but you will see her soon, or something.

The last 2 or 3 years are the first time I've been able to attend any form of family gathering since about 2000. My ex and I can't be in the same room together and she insists on going, so I (for the sake of everyone) have stayed away. Kinda sh!tty, but the ex is a real bitch and my family would rather not start a fight. But she hasn't been going since she has been with her now new husband, so I get to enjoy my family again.

Funny now because my family has been telling all these crazy ass stories about my ex that I've never gotten to hear, mostly to my girlfriend since she doesn't seem to be crazy like the dos equis. :rofl:
 
eaterofdog

eaterofdog

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Sep 8, 2006
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jimmydean said:
The last 2 or 3 years are the first time I've been able to attend any form of family gathering since about 2000. My ex and I can't be in the same room together and she insists on going,
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You should be attending:
• Your family's gatherings
• Your girlfriend's family gatherings
Why the hell is your ex there?
 
jimmydean

jimmydean

The Official Meat of Ridemonkey
Sep 10, 2001
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eaterofdog said:
You should be attending:
• Your family's gatherings
• Your girlfriend's family gatherings
Why the hell is your ex there?
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She used to take my son, but refused to leave him. My family wanted him to be there, but not her, but chose he and mom over me. Yes, it was not good, but the Easter we were all there was a huge mess and I chose to not repeat it. If she was there, I was not.

We were together at my parents 50th without issue. But I think my sisters would have killed her had she made an issue.

<edit> I've been making trips down since dad passed 3 years ago to see mom. Most of my family is an hour or so away from mom, so its easy to get together.
 
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eaterofdog

eaterofdog

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Sep 8, 2006
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Central Florida
jimmydean said:
She used to take my son, but refused to leave him. My family wanted him to be there, but not her, but chose he and mom over me. Yes, it was not good, but the Easter we were all there was a huge mess and I chose to not repeat it. If she was there, I was not.

We were together at my parents 50th without issue. But I think my sisters would have killed her had she made an issue.

<edit> I've been making trips down since dad passed 3 years ago to see mom. Most of my family is an hour or so away from mom, so its easy to get together.
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Ah, I get it.
 
rockofullr

rockofullr

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Jun 11, 2009
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jimmydean said:
The last 2 or 3 years are the first time I've been able to attend any form of family gathering since about 2000. My ex and I can't be in the same room together and she insists on going, so I (for the sake of everyone) have stayed away. Kinda sh!tty, but the ex is a real bitch and my family would rather not start a fight. But she hasn't been going since she has been with her now new husband, so I get to enjoy my family again.
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stevew

stevew

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Sep 21, 2001
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i was living with my younger brother and didn't find out about him and his gf's wedding until the morning of it....

didn't go...he didn't care.
 
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