Conflicted...

Ciaran · May 13, 2005

Depends on your fiancee... Best case scenario is that you call and are honest with her and she lies to her family for you, telling them that you are sick, have the runs, or whatever. Then you go drumming.

Have you gotten out of family functions alot lately? If so you may owe her this one. If you tend to go with her then she should cut you a little slack and let you play.

My 2 pence.

SkaredShtles · May 13, 2005

Absolutely depends on her. If you've got yourself an understanding woman, go for the party in town.

If she's like 99.9999% of the women on the planet, I'd suggest going to OKC.

-S.S.-

sanjuro · May 13, 2005

1. You must not like driving. I have driven from New Orleans to New York by myself in one day (1200 miles - 23 hrs), and I am sure there are people here who can top that.

2. Have you met any of your fiance's family before? They could be great people and loads of fun. Hell, no family function I've attended had even one keg.

3. You promised your fiance you'd go, which means she told her parents, which means the entire family is expecting you. On the other hand, your teacher (who is gone in a month) and his friends will probably think you are the coolest if you drum with them. Hmmm, angry fiance and future-in-laws vs. happy acquaintances.

SkaredShtles · May 13, 2005

sanjuro said:
1. You must not like driving. I have driven from New Orleans to New York by myself in one day (1200 miles - 23 hrs), and I am sure there are people here who can top that.

I once drove to San Fran from Denver in a day. ~1300 miles. 19 hours.

It's *FAST* driving between Salt Lake and Reno. :eek:

Don't mention it to the cops.

-S.S.-

SkaredShtles · May 13, 2005

golgiaparatus said:
Her family wouldn't care... its her that I'm worried about.
You know its the old... "you told me you would come" scenario.

If she's going to care about this, then go to OKC.

Unless you don't mind being in the $hithouse for god only knows how long.

-S.S.-

OGRipper · May 13, 2005

I don't that any of us can give very good advice here 'cuz it totally depends on your relationship and her relationship with her family. To me, honesty and open communication is the key. If you said you'd go in kind of an off-hand way you should be able to tell her something you'd rather do has come up and ask her if it's that big of a deal. She might not be too happy, but (hopefully) she wouldn't want you to go if you'd rather be somewhere else. You're pretty much guaranteed to have a crappy time if you show up resenting the fact that you're missing something else, and that's not fair to either of you. Just be honest with her, if it means a lot to her she'll tell you.

But dude, two hours drive is nothing, hell I drive two hours each way for some rides. And 8 kegs with a bunch of new people to party with sounds like it could be fun. If you hated the idea so much why'd you agree in the first place?

Craw · May 13, 2005

And drinking with total strangers is a blast sometimes.

flydi007 · May 13, 2005

if you said you'd do something, better to follow through with it, even if you promised it casually.

Potroast88 · May 13, 2005

Are you north of OKC? If so, just tell her you lost your wallet and don't have any money to pay the tolls.

H8R · May 13, 2005

Go to the drum thing.

If she is the one you will spend your life with, then she will understand the importance of the drums.

:thumb:

BTW - i got you all beat for mileage on the road. 12 years of touring w/ my band.

Started on tour from Oakland to Memphis straight, circled the country twice back to New Orleans, then back to Oakland.

On another tour, we did over 45,000 miles in under 9 weeks. (min. 800 miles/day)

Potroast88 · May 13, 2005

H8R said:
Go to the drum thing.

If she is the one you will spend your life with, then she will understand the importance of the drums.

BTW - i got you all beat for mileage on the road. 12 years of touring w/ my band.

Started on tour from Oakland to Memphis straight, circled the country twice back to New Orleans, then back to Oakland.

On another tour, we did over 45,000 miles in under 9 weeks. (min. 800 miles/day)

And that was probably stuffed into a van with a bunch of guys that thought it would be fun to load up on burritos just before they left.

H8R · May 13, 2005

Potroast88 said:
And that was probably stuffed into a van with a bunch of guys that thought it would be fun to load up on burritos just before they left.

Ugh.

Most of us would be full of truck stop food and one of us is vegan.

Horrendous.

sanjuro · May 13, 2005

The worse part of my drive from New Orleans was I got 4 hours of sleep a night for two weeks packing up my apartment and throwing things out, then I drove off to wedding in NY, which I missed by 10 minutes.

stevew · May 13, 2005

2 hours is long?

You are kidding right?

yojimborace · May 14, 2005

You should convince your teacher and his friends that they should play drums with you at that graduation party... and mention the free beer :thumb:

Potroast88 · May 14, 2005

H8R said:
Ugh.

Most of us would be full of truck stop food and one of us is vegan.

Horrendous.

UMMM!! Nothing beats a 12 hour old corndog at 4 a.m..

Brian HCM#1 · May 14, 2005

Go with your chick, plus tell your old Afro Cuban teacher he's not welcome here in CA cause we have WAY TOO MANY durm beating hippies. Also sitting around in a circle beating each others drums kinda sounds..............you know

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