Straight shit, no jokes.
I have a friend I met in Germany. Got along immediately when we met, similar likes/dislikes/attitudes etc. For the better part of 3 years, we hung out all the time. Played hockey together, went to punk shows, rode bikes and hung out. Families meshed well, dogs played well together...he and his soon to be ex are like family to me and mine. Turns out he is a highly functioning alcoholic, and now he is in hospital being treated for liver failure...I never saw any signs. I am the child of an alcoholic, albeit not a highly functioning one, and my family is full of addicts and compulsives. This has resulted in me being a fairly sober and quasi responsible dude. But this is not about me.
I have been talking to him, and dont know what to say. I want to be a guys guy with him, tell him I will beat his ass when we get together again, do the whole tough love thing...but as he has also been suicidal, I dont want to push him in that way. He messaged me today that he will be living a compromised life for the rest of it, and he will be off the bike and the ice, and out of the pit till he kicks off. I want to tell him he brought it on himself and he is reaping what he sowed, but he will be better and we will rock again, but I dont think that would help.
Thoughts on what/how to talk to him? Anybody?
I have a friend I met in Germany. Got along immediately when we met, similar likes/dislikes/attitudes etc. For the better part of 3 years, we hung out all the time. Played hockey together, went to punk shows, rode bikes and hung out. Families meshed well, dogs played well together...he and his soon to be ex are like family to me and mine. Turns out he is a highly functioning alcoholic, and now he is in hospital being treated for liver failure...I never saw any signs. I am the child of an alcoholic, albeit not a highly functioning one, and my family is full of addicts and compulsives. This has resulted in me being a fairly sober and quasi responsible dude. But this is not about me.
I have been talking to him, and dont know what to say. I want to be a guys guy with him, tell him I will beat his ass when we get together again, do the whole tough love thing...but as he has also been suicidal, I dont want to push him in that way. He messaged me today that he will be living a compromised life for the rest of it, and he will be off the bike and the ice, and out of the pit till he kicks off. I want to tell him he brought it on himself and he is reaping what he sowed, but he will be better and we will rock again, but I dont think that would help.
Thoughts on what/how to talk to him? Anybody?