[sanjuro]

I was at the pub, and I saw a close acquaintance (but not a good friend) there. He was there with a couple of people, include a girl that I have met before.

Anyway, she and I hit it off well. I wanted to ask her out, but I was not sure if she was dating my acquaintance. The three of us were always together, so I never got a chance to be alone with her.

I will see her again, because her brother asked me to get her a bike. But I was wondering what RM's think I should have done? Ask her out right in front of my acquaintance, who I am friends with?

 

[Toshi]

i would have done what you did: play it cool until you figure out what her deal is with your acquaintance.

 

[BuddhaRoadkill]

What Toshi said.

But as far as dating someone else's other? Be prepared for her to do the same to you. Good times can be had, just keep your expectations realistic.

 

[MMike]

you should have grabbed her boobs

 

[firetoole]

find out the info first

 

[douglas]

You could have asked them "So, are you two just friends or are you dating/in a relationship? "



and if they are dating........very not cool to try to steal a friends girl ... but you said he is not a friend so go for it.

 

[firetoole]

you should have grabbed her boobs

is that before or after you get kicked in the balls?
:nuts:

 

[MMike]

is that before or after you get kicked in the balls?
:nuts:

Girls always swoon when I do it. But that's because I'm an ultra pimp daddy. Maybe not everyone can pull it off.

 

[binary visions]

Definitly don't ask her out until you find out their situation. I'd probably avoid doing it right in front of your friend, too, unless you know how he feels about her. It may be a situation of unrequited love, which doesn't mean that she's off the market, but doing it right in front of your friend might rub salt in the wound.

Depends on how much you like the guy, though

 

[hooples3]

In converstaion just find out if the two of them came there together.. or just do what you did.. play it cool until you see her again.. alone.. and ask her. It never hurts to ask, even if she is dating him.. she may not be happy.

When I met my wife she was dating someone. I met her in a club through some mutual friends and asked her out to dinner. When she told me she had a b/f, I said ok .. invite him too. a week later she got rid of him and called me up. Now we are married.

You just never know!!!!

 

[golgiaparatus]

You could have asked them "So, are you two just friends or are you dating/in a relationship? "and if they are dating........very not cool to try to steal a friends girl ... but you said he is not a friend so go for it.

Exactly... just ask. Could have dont it right there and gotten it out of the way, jeez.

 

[DHS]

yea should have just asked her to show her puppies. got make sure the goods are good before you do anything

 

[shocktower]

Dude bang the hell out of her your friend would do the same :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :devil: ...............

 

[jmvar]

Should have bought the guy 2 beers, and then waited for him to go take a leak.

Either way, if they were together the whole time at the pub, they are either dating, or he is putting in work to get a date in the future. It sucks to ask the question "are you guys dating" and have them not really know......either way, he is bogarting the goods. If you ask her out then and there you might get flagged for encroachment. If you don't then you might get a delay of game and end up with a turn over. I would risk the encroachment call.

I was in a similar situation in college, at the bar, saw a girl I had spoken to a couple of times that I really wanted to ask out. I did, she points at her boyfriend, who was getting the same degree as me and we were in a lot of classes together. Luckly, he either didn't hear me, or ignoring on purpose and all was good. Never got a chance to go out with her, but it feels good that I atleast tried.

 

[-dustin]

i get a sick pleasure out of flirting with friends' girlfriends.

 

[llkoolkeg]

Girls always swoon when I do it. But that's because I'm an ultra pimp daddy. Maybe not everyone can pull it off.

The only boob you're grabbing these days I'll wager is when you cop a feel while pulling you're kid off your wife's teet!

 

[llkoolkeg]

Should have bought the guy 2 beers, and then waited for him to go take a leak.

Either way, if they were together the whole time at the pub, they are either dating, or he is putting in work to get a date in the future. It sucks to ask the question "are you guys dating" and have them not really know......either way, he is bogarting the goods. If you ask her out then and there you might get flagged for encroachment. If you don't then you might get a delay of game and end up with a turn over. I would risk the encroachment call.

I was in a similar situation in college, at the bar, saw a girl I had spoken to a couple of times that I really wanted to ask out. I did, she points at her boyfriend, who was getting the same degree as me and we were in a lot of classes together. Luckly, he either didn't hear me, or ignoring on purpose and all was good. Never got a chance to go out with her, but it feels good that I atleast tried.

This is the closest yet posted to my own code regarding such things.

I once asked a girl out at OzzFest who had gone there on the ticket of and with one of my stoner buddies. I found out later that day after spending the concert with her(in the woods :devil: ) that she had gone to the show with him but had already come to the conclusion that she and he "would just be friends". She went home with me and I dated her for six months. Funny because she and that guy are to this day still friends even though he has pined for(yet still never sampled) her. I found out after the fact that it drove him nuts that she would still sometimes spend the night with me even after we had broken up. It's like he has been bogarting the goods for 10 years, scaring away the unaggressive from taxing that admittedly nice punanny. He's kind of like a fully-functional(therefore, supremely, frustratedly blue-balled) eunuch guarding the shiek's harem from wayward phalluses!

 

[biggins]

make sure you ask her what the deal is, not him. if you ask her then you will get a more honest answer.

 

[johnbryanpeters]

Ask your acquaintance for a date.

 

[LOOnatic]

make sure you ask her what the deal is, not him. if you ask her then you will get a more honest answer.

Good one Biggins.
Now i need to have a talk with Lizzie :eviltongu neaky:

 

[biggins]

Good one Biggins.
Now i need to have a talk with Lizzie :eviltongu neaky:

now thats just dirty.

she will be over tonight, give it your best shot. :nuts:

 

[sanjuro]

Her brother asked me to get her a bike (for free). It wasn't exactly No. 1 on my priority list, but she asked me as well. People leave repairs for months, so I will take one of those bikes for her. By that point, I better be able to figure out if she is "available".

 

[johnbryanpeters]

...People leave repairs for months, so I will take one of those bikes for her...

Huh? So you think bike theft is OK?

 

[flydi007]

eh, ask her out. i was at a party with another guy when i hooked up with his friend, who is now my husband. they are still friends and they still joke about it. so i don't see a problem with asking a girl out if she's on a date with another guy-ultimately it's her decision to accept anyway, right?

 

[sanjuro]

As a follow-up, I gave the bike to her brother, who immediately called his sister to tell her the good news. She wanted to talk to me, and we made arrangements for a date. SCORE!!!

 

[lovebunny]

shoulda fisted her

 

[lovebunny]

Huh? So you think bike theft is OK?

many shops have a policy where if, for example a bike is left for 6 months then its up for grabs

 

[WhiteRavenKS]

maybe i have a learning disorder. when i saw this thread i totally missed the word "on" and i laughed. it would have been much more excitig and controvertial had "on" not been there.

 

[sanjuro]

many shops have a policy where if, for example a bike is left for 6 months then its up for grabs

That is the kind of bike I was talking about, btw. It wasn't the baby blue Titus Racer-X that hasn't been picked up for a week.

 

[blue]

That is the kind of bike I was talking about, btw. It wasn't the baby blue Titus Racer-X that hasn't been picked up for a week.

Yeah, when I worked in a shop there were plenty of bikes in the basement that people had just left. I always failed to understand why you'd take a bike in to get fixed and then never return to pick it up...

 

[manziman]

I think you should have asked dexterq advice about asking out girls with boy friends. he took a girl that already had a gf to prom and then asked my gf to go to lake meid with him and his frat for memorial day weekend...hmmm

 

[Curb Hucker]

I think you should have asked dexterq advice about asking out girls with boy friends. he took a girl that already had a gf to prom and then asked my gf to go to lake meid with him and his frat for memorial day weekend...hmmm

Send out the Wu Tang Clan to cap his ass :nuts: