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Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by narlus, Dec 5, 2005.

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what your thoughts on having children?

  1. yes, will (or already do) have children

    54.8%
  2. no, never

    16.5%
  3. no, unless my partner forces the issue

    5.2%
  4. way too early to say at this point in my life

    23.5%
  1. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    seems to be a fairly polarizing topic here...curious as to the demographic leanings.
     
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  2. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    Having kids is highly over rated.

    You need a Have Kids but may not do it again Option...
     
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  3. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    do you let your daughter read RM? :nuts:
     
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  4. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    nope.
     
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  5. I Are Baboon

    I Are Baboon Run, Forrest, Run!

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    We have no desire to right now, but we may address the issue again in a few years. I really can't see us changing our minds though, and we are not getting any younger.
     
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  6. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    ..and the idea of having a teenager on your hands when you are 60 years old sucks!
     
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  7. urbaindk

    urbaindk The Real Dr. Science

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    My wife and I keep telling ourselves that it is "way too early to say at this point in our lives" We've only been married 2.5 years and we're having too much fun together. Note that I am 33 and my wife is 35. Hopefully when we finally do settle down it won't be too late.
     
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  8. spacemanspiff06

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    seeing as i'm 17 and all...
     
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  9. Yossarian

    Yossarian Monkey Pimp

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    Kids are great and they suck, all at the same time.
     
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  10. I Are Baboon

    I Are Baboon Run, Forrest, Run!

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    That is one consideration, but not at the top of the list. We just really enjoy our lifestyle and having a kid would change it completely.
     
  11. Slugman

    Slugman Frankenbike

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    Watch it there.... that's close to what I'll be facing.

    Wife is just starting out in her career so it'll be a while before we have kids. Its fine for her b/c she just turned 28... But I'm 34. She wants to wait until she is 33+, so I'll be 40 before we have any kids.

    Makes me think that maybe we won't, especially since I hear they screw with the amount of time you get to go biking...
     
  12. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    Our kids are 12 and we are counting the days till we can get them in college and outta here!
     
  13. amydalayna

    amydalayna Turbo Monkey

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    my husband and i go back and forth about having kids 5 yrs from now.
    i'm on the 'NO' side. i like my time and my money. and i don't really like the idea of being pregnant.
    things change though.

    everytime i see the teeny tiny kids at the bmx track ripping i think that kids might not be all bad. but with my luck my kid would be a lazy fatso.
     
  14. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    can the dogsitter double as a babysitter? :)
     
  15. Tenchiro

    Tenchiro Attention K Mart Shoppers

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    Well we aren't all Woody Allen... :blah:
     
  16. Yossarian

    Yossarian Monkey Pimp

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    :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
     
  17. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    ouch.
     
  18. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    For some Monkeys you will need a mack I have to get laid first option...


    :p
     
  19. Ciaran

    Ciaran Fear my banana

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    That's about where I am. The wife is about to go get a teaching cred and will of course want to teach for a while before having any kids. This means no kids until we're 36 at least. By that time it may be too late for us. We really really don't want to have teenagers when we are 50+. So for us it looks like no kids.

    On the one hand we are a little sad that we'll likely never get to have a kid of our own to ruin, but we'll also never have to save for college, beat up teen boys (if it's a girl), have to find a sitter so we can go out, or change a dirty diaper. We'll also have more time and money to travel and see the world.

    Sure kids bring joy into your life and all that but kids are not a necessity to a happy and fulfilling life. Personally I can take em or leave em.
     
  20. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    You can always adopt a 17 year old swedish girl.....
     
  21. SkaredShtles

    SkaredShtles I love NEWCASTLE and will ONLY drink NEWCASTLE!!!!

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    I like kids. We have 3, ages 4.5, 3.5, and 11 months. All boys. It's great!

    We'd probably have more if the prospect of increased mayhem didn't dissuade us. :D
     
  22. N8 v2.0

    N8 v2.0 Not the sharpest tool in the shed

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    Jesus H Christ... what do y'all do for fun?

    :angry:
     
  23. douglas

    douglas Chocolate Milk Doug

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    does wanting to be a be a foster daddy to a couple 18 year old chicks count as a yes? haha
     
  24. Yossarian

    Yossarian Monkey Pimp

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    I think the answer to that is obvious.
     
  25. Velocity Girl

    Velocity Girl whack-a-mole

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    I've never really wanted them and the older I get, the less chance I see of that changing. I prefer my kids to have 4 legs, fur, and a limited vocabulary of "woof".
     
  26. narlus

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    virgins can adopt.
     
  27. H8R

    H8R Cranky Pants

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    My kid will be an adult when I'm 40.


    Yikes.
     
  28. SkaredShtles

    SkaredShtles I love NEWCASTLE and will ONLY drink NEWCASTLE!!!!

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    See my skiing thread. :p
     
  29. Brian HCM#1

    Brian HCM#1 MMMMMMMMM BEER!!!!!!!!!!

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    Kids are cool, big lifestyle change. But well worth it!!!!
     
  30. kidwoo

    kidwoo Celebrating No-Pants Day

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    Pit them against one another with sharp objects.

    Last one standing gets dinner.
     
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    Nope, never. I'm lucky to have found someone that feels the same way:)

    I'm happy being an aunt for the rest of my life:love:
     
  32. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    build yr own Lord of the Flies arena.

    wrestling w/ my boys is a lot of fun (for now; they will kick my butt in few years).
     
  33. antimony

    antimony M.N.F. Beer Wench

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    Absolutely never. There is way too much I want to do with my life, between getting an advanced degree, having a career, philanthropy work, and traveling the world... definitely not happening for this chicky! I figure if I have any major regret much later on, there is always adoption.
     
  34. Westy

    Westy the teste

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    I'd like to have a kid at some point. If it happens it will be later in life. I feel bad for the kids if I have them. I get crankier and meaner as time goes by.
     
  35. jimmydean

    jimmydean The Official Meat of Ridemonkey

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    I have a daughter and my wife has a son that I help raise, but we are having no more. I think you should not have kids until you are at least 25 and that no 2 people should have more than 2 kids, maybe a 3rd if you are very well off and it does not cause issues.

    Also, kids that are less than 3 years apart are trouble.
     
  36. SkaredShtles

    SkaredShtles I love NEWCASTLE and will ONLY drink NEWCASTLE!!!!

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    You know what they say about opinions. :rolleyes:

    Again, YMMV. Our first two were 15 months apart and it's great. They can pretty much do everything together. Which is mostly a good thing, but can sometimes be a curse. :D
     
  37. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    because....why? my wife and i consciously wanted a smaller gap between our two. two years seemed about perfect. my brother's 4 years older than me, and there was definitely a difference in our relationship as he got older (ie, into high school) which didn't restore itself until after i was out of college.
     
  38. Tenchiro

    Tenchiro Attention K Mart Shoppers

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    Fixed. :oink:
     
  39. jimmydean

    jimmydean The Official Meat of Ridemonkey

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    My kids are 14 years apart and it's perfect. I had one finish High School and one start Pre School the year after.

    It just seems that kids too close in age stiffle each others learning. My daughter grew up with what seemed to be 3 adults in the house and you can see how advanced she is in social situations. She plays well with other kids, but she also got 100% of our attention the first 3 years and I would argue that it made a HUGE difference.

    This is only being able to compare her to kids in her class and friends who have kids her age. She may just be plain smarter than other kids, but I think a lot of it came from not having another to compete with.
     
  40. narlus

    narlus Eastcoast Softcore
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    you make it sound like having fun as a family is impossible. gee, those N8 family outings must be a blast.