[Kanye West]

Yeah what I keep hearing about it is that it is 80% fat people with cats or herpes or both, or even some other kind of total misfit, but it's much easier to sort through.

Of course, there's nothing truly as effective as a well tuned "fat-dar" that can be used in real life. Around LA, my fat-dar tends to get too much of a workout...

 

[jimmydean]

But you also have to think about why the lady/guy is on the internet dating site in the first place..........herpes, bad reputation, etc. Of course there's clean, good people out there but you'd have to think the ratio of freaks/normals is a lot higher on the internet.

That's like saying "I met her at a bar, so she must be an alcoholic". Granted, a percentage of people in the bar have drinking problems, but not everyone.

I would bet that the 1 in 4 herpes statistic is the same in the bar as online. They never say "1 in 4 people on eHarmony have herpes".

<edit> Now eHerpes.com might have a MUCH higher percentage.

 

[scrublover]

I met lots of hot chicks online after watching my less than stellar roommate bring home hotties he met on Yahoo.

After about a half dozen hotties, a few fatties, and a couple psychos, I met my now wife. We have been together 10 years.

What did I learn?
1. Pictures, good ones that are recent
2. Public place meetings with visible escape routes are keys to first meetings.
3. Phone conversations after many email exchanges prior to coffee shop meetings are a must.
4. Lunch dates are cheap, easy, and quick. Much better than dinner.
5. Don't divulge where you hid the body of your ex until at least the 4th date.

Mirrors my experience. My wife and I are going on seven years now. I strongly agree with numbers 1-5.

My co-workers convinced me to try it out, after the split from my ex. Guess they were tired of me whining about my single state.

 

[MMcG]

I did the online thing for a while.

Met some really cool women, and some who weren't. I met my current girlfriend of 3 plus years via yahoo personals. It can work.

 

[eric strt6]

to those who bag on the online thing all I can say is

yeah thats me and the wife a few weks ago

 

[Upgr8r]

I prefer meeting girls the old fashioned way.

I met my lady at the strip club :biggrin:

 

[Da Peach]

nerd...

Summer of Chris!

 

[Sherpa]

That's like saying "I met her at a bar, so she must be an alcoholic". Granted, a percentage of people in the bar have drinking problems, but not everyone.

I would bet that the 1 in 4 herpes statistic is the same in the bar as online. They never say "1 in 4 people on eHarmony have herpes".

<edit> Now eHerpes.com might have a MUCH higher percentage.

I'm just saying higher percentages......

 

[jimmydean]

I'm just saying higher percentages......

I would say not. A lot of professional people (chicks with jobs) don't have time to try and find someone when going to clubs, or the dog park, or the mall and whatnot. So they spend an hour online looking at potential matches rather than going to 4 different clubs over the course of a month.

If it's not your thing, then it's not your thing. But the fact is, it's WAY easier for me to check out some personals online at work than to go to various places in hopes of finding someone. My time is precious and while I enjoy going to clubs, I would rather meet someone online and go to the club together.

It is just easier to post up a pic, make a list of wants and needs, then let someone else do the leg work. I met a lot of cool people online.

My wife lived in Grants Pass (4 hours away). We would never have met if it wasn't for Yahoo.

<edit> She doesn't even have herpes, either.

 

[mattmatt86]

Meeting someone online?

why don't you put your pants back on and have a seat right over there.

 

[AngryMetalsmith]

This site looks good.

linky

 

[maddog17]

Got ya beat. I married my housemate. Can't get much easier than that.

could have married your sister or mom. can't get easier than that.

 

[SkaredShtles]

I prefer the old fashioned way too.

Meet her on a ski holiday in Tahoe.

irate2:

 

[binary visions]

So what I'm seeing here is one guy who clearly hasn't tried it (and clearly had a preconceived opinion of it) making the assertion that most who do are losers and have herpes, and several people who have tried it, all with good things to say.

Hmm...

 

[AngryMetalsmith]

OK, so do the more popular sites charge a fee ?

If so, how much and how often ?

 

[jimmydean]

Yahoo was free when I met my wife, but they all charge now. Yahoo got bombarded by strippers and escorts, so they started charging.

 

[Toshi]

i tried it. went on a date through okcupid. i'm a strange guy but this girl was much stranger than me. and not in a good way. i paid for dinner and walked quickly away.

i met my fiancée at seattle youth symphony orchestra camp back when we were in either late middle school or early high school, i can't quite remember. yes, i'm a music nerd.

 

[jimmydean]

This one time, at youth orchestra camp...

Doesn't have the same effect.

There are some real freaks on CL, though.

 

[AngryMetalsmith]

 

[Spunger]

In High School, this was 10 years ago, everyone was starting to use AOL instant messenger. I started meeting girls though it just talking to them, but knowing who they were in school. I did meet a few and had romantic encounters with them, which was fine. We were younger and had fun.

Now days with all the craigslist stuff, eharmony stuff etc.....I dunno what "internet dating" would be like. I mean it's one thing to have models as your friends on myspace but there's a lot more room for weirdos now days then before. I'm sure some people are legit and figure it's worth a chance to find a relationship, but on the other hand you have the masses of people paying for services like this. I guess some people will. Not knocking it completely, but most online stuff is pretty sad, especially for adults.

There's nothing wrong with a random date or meeting though. You never know how things will go though. I've met some online that went for one meeting to ones that I dated. Hell I even started off talking to my wife on AIM before she was my wife, we hit it off, started dating in school and now married. We knew each other anyways but never talked. That was all the computer was really used for.

 

[stoney]

One of my good friends met his now wife on E-Harmony. He's pushing 40, and was sick of chicks after his money.
He met someone that mirrored his life wants and needs and he's 100x the better for it.

My sister met my now brother-in-law online after having horrific luck in LA bars. They match perfectly.

Everyone has their own ways, and it lets shy people express their personality until they are comfortable with the other individual.