Man, I just got an email from my step mom that my parents are divorcing after 20 years of marriage. Now, Im a grown ass man and I know people can be stupid assholes. But, my parents have been awesome. Foster parents, adoptive parents (3 girls) and they've done so much to help all of us kids when we needed it. There are 5 of us 37, 30, 19, 18 and 17.
What I worry about most is my pops. In 1982, when I was 8 two years after OG mom/Dad got divorced I had to take a super surreal trip to the hospital to see my dad in a halo who after a car wreck had no movement below the waist. Life after that was hard and weird. I spent a lot of my teenage years caring for a paraplegic, when most kids got to play and have fun I was caretaker, nurse, student, full-time employee and son. It took me many years to get over my anger over those teenage years and to realize the selfishness.
He didn't let that stop him, he had a great career and in the process met my step mother. At first I hated her and almost punched her out once. But as I mellowed so did they. Being an adult now Im so glad they met. They seemed like such a perfect compliment. She didn't seem to care that he was in a wheelchair and what that meant to begin a relationship and carry it on. They began fostering severely at risk kids. Their first adopted child was just 3 days old when they got her. Born to a pill popping mom she had a malformation in her brain that give symptoms of cerebral palsy. A few surgeries to help straighten her foot and build muscle and you'd be hard pressed to ever know she had issues. The next two were actual sisters. Left by their parents the youngest was hit by a car as a toddler. They came to use extremely afraid and scared. 16 years later we get to this point.
My 19 year old sister has been secretly dating a boy from her high school. A boy whom Im told is under 18. Along with the divorce news this evening i've been told that she has ended communication with my parents and dropped out of college to move into this kids house with his parents. Im so ****ing disappointed with her it's not even funny. Im so mad at my parents I wish they were here so I could smack the **** out of them.
Now, the two oldest, my brother and myself are having to deal with being the problem solvers and ensuring my our father isn't left alone to die. If this divorce happens I've been thinking about asking my dad to move west to Oregon. If the girls go with my step-mom back to california it'll just be my dad alone in Ohio (they do live in his hometown) so his sisters, mom and brother are all there but Im worried. lifelong parapalegics don't always live super long, lots of complications and health issues and it scares the **** out of me that this could be more than pops can handle.
Just wanted to say that.
How would you guys go about approaching the subject of talking a family member or parent into moving?
What I worry about most is my pops. In 1982, when I was 8 two years after OG mom/Dad got divorced I had to take a super surreal trip to the hospital to see my dad in a halo who after a car wreck had no movement below the waist. Life after that was hard and weird. I spent a lot of my teenage years caring for a paraplegic, when most kids got to play and have fun I was caretaker, nurse, student, full-time employee and son. It took me many years to get over my anger over those teenage years and to realize the selfishness.
He didn't let that stop him, he had a great career and in the process met my step mother. At first I hated her and almost punched her out once. But as I mellowed so did they. Being an adult now Im so glad they met. They seemed like such a perfect compliment. She didn't seem to care that he was in a wheelchair and what that meant to begin a relationship and carry it on. They began fostering severely at risk kids. Their first adopted child was just 3 days old when they got her. Born to a pill popping mom she had a malformation in her brain that give symptoms of cerebral palsy. A few surgeries to help straighten her foot and build muscle and you'd be hard pressed to ever know she had issues. The next two were actual sisters. Left by their parents the youngest was hit by a car as a toddler. They came to use extremely afraid and scared. 16 years later we get to this point.
My 19 year old sister has been secretly dating a boy from her high school. A boy whom Im told is under 18. Along with the divorce news this evening i've been told that she has ended communication with my parents and dropped out of college to move into this kids house with his parents. Im so ****ing disappointed with her it's not even funny. Im so mad at my parents I wish they were here so I could smack the **** out of them.
Now, the two oldest, my brother and myself are having to deal with being the problem solvers and ensuring my our father isn't left alone to die. If this divorce happens I've been thinking about asking my dad to move west to Oregon. If the girls go with my step-mom back to california it'll just be my dad alone in Ohio (they do live in his hometown) so his sisters, mom and brother are all there but Im worried. lifelong parapalegics don't always live super long, lots of complications and health issues and it scares the **** out of me that this could be more than pops can handle.
Just wanted to say that.
How would you guys go about approaching the subject of talking a family member or parent into moving?
