Suicide aint painless...

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  1. JohnE

    JohnE filthy rascist

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    A few weeks ago someone in my relatively small career field commited suicide; Saturday a freind and former co worker did. I dont know why, I know how and where, but those things dont really matter. I have met a few Monkeys, corresponded with others, got help from alot of you...and hope to meet a few more of you maniacs in the future.

    I promise you, if any one of you ever thinks about taking your own life, you can come to me and I will go to the ends of the Earth to get you help. I will not look down on you, I will not judge. I WILL HELP YOU. If not me, ask someone...please. It does not make you weak. True strength comes from knowing when to ask for help...we are all in this together...
     
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  2. Colonel Angus

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    My condolences. I have wanted be be dead several times, but I've never been tempted to kill myself. Life is too big of a gift to throw away, no matter how hopeless things might seem.
     
  3. DirtMcGirk

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    It seems to go in waves. Last year I had three associates/friends go in pretty quick order. Never made much sense to me. My father once said to me "I'd rather have a son serving life in prison than a son in the ground." Those words have carried me my entire life.
     
  4. jimmydean

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    I'm sorry to hear, brother. Yes, it does much more hurt than heal to those around you, no matter how much of an asshole you think you might be. If you are a big enough asshole, someone else will take you out.

    On a similar front, there have been 3 "suicide by cop" calls in the last 3 months here and ALL 3 were vets. I honestly don't know if self suicide comes close to forcing an officer to do it for you. Don't put that on someone else, either.
     
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    I'm so sorry for your losses, and thanks for the kind words--you never know what eyes will read them that may have been needing them more than you could ever know.
     
  6. JetTeach

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    Sorry to hear this. Been there, done that....recently.

    It does explain the sudden mandatory "resilience training" last week.
     
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    Definitely know what you're going through.

    Lost one of my closest friends to suicide about 4yrs ago. Was definitely a tough thing to deal with since he was only 26. Helping carry my friend's casket was probably one of the toughest things I've ever had to do.
     
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    I too , unfortunately know what your going through , My Wife's Brother Commit suicide about 10 years ago, it really sucked!

    These People are Sick and need help!
     
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    damn dude, it's a monday of doom. I have no direct personal experience but my condolences go out to you and their families. My current gf, lost her ex to a suicide. She came home to find him hung. To say it hasn't screwed her up is a understatement.
     
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    Moms, brothers son just took his life with a shotgun to his mouth. Moms brother was left cleaning up peices of there childs skull in some gravel. Had a freind and a kid I knew about both hang themselves the past year...not fun.
     
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    I have some feelings to share about this subject, however, I feel posting is not the right thing to do right now. I have an angelversary coming up that I need to concentrate on, though I will share in private if asked. Good for you, JohnE, for wanting/offering to help.....
     
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    It'll be a year in April since one of the first friends I made in college committed suicide. I'll never forget that funeral. Seeing his family and all of my close friends in tears like that made me wonder if he knew how much all those people cared about him and would've helped if he asked.
     
  13. JohnE

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    It always seems to be that way...which is why it is so important to reach out.
     
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    JohnE filthy rascist

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    Got another one of those calls last night. A friend from childhood and HS felt there was no other way out then to take his own life. I re read this thread, and saw who the second Monkey to reply was...made me even sadder.

    Folks...please, be good to one another. Help out a brother/sister in need, be there for those who are hurting. You just never know what effect your concern or simple kind words may have on another. There is enough ugliness in the world, spread some love, some joy and some peace.

    Rest in peace Jon, I hope you have pinned your demons.
     
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    This is just a thought..... Is there any way we can maybe, just maybe, have our own sort of "suicide/depression hotline"? After all, there are many of us that have been a part of RM for years, and have built relationships here. I know there are several here that I would reach out to, if I was ever that gone.

    Does this sound like a viable plan, or would there be too much "go out and ride" feelings, and/or loads of sarcasm, instead of pure help?

    I vote YES, and if the mods approve, well, let's give it a chance.....
     
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    Was really hoping it was a bot that had bumped this thread. :(

    There are some pretty amazing resources online now, and as Mantispf2000 says, I would certainly hope someone might reach out to me, or any of the other long time :monkey: if they think they might be heading down that road.

    Sorry for your loss JohnE.

    http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
     
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    When your feeling that is the only way out your usually at rock bottom and don't think things will get better when the reality is things can ONLY get better
     
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    Sorry to hear John.
    I've lost some close friends that way as well and it leaves the living with so much hurt and 'what ifs'.
    Healing vibes to those effected.
     
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    Read this thread this morning.


    Hour later I called my mom, she told me a friends son killed himself, also a coworker of my dad did the same.
     
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    JohnE filthy rascist

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    Bumping again...this weekend a childhood frined living here in CO, my only decent mtb'ing buddy (I roasted him climbing and such, he smoked me technically...) decided he had only one recourse. We were together last weekend, I knew nothing of his situation, he seemed the happiest motherfucker around. We tore up the beer tents at Sabroso Fest and couldnt fucking get a taco...saw Street Dogs shred the Denver air and were making plans for shows this summer. I am fucking gutted right now. Shit is pouring in on the FB and I just dont want to engage. Fuck this shit...we should all live long enough and be stupid enough to throw ourselves into a lion cage.

    Again...I promise you, if any one of you ever thinks about taking your own life, you can come to me and I will go to the ends of the Earth to get you help. I will not look down on you, I will not judge. I WILL HELP YOU. If not me, ask someone...please. It does not make you weak. True strength comes from knowing when to ask for help...we are all in this together...

    National Suicide Hotline

    1-800-273-8255
     
  21. Nick

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    fuck. sorry, John.
    let me know if you need to get out, talk over a beer, etc.
     
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    junkyard You might feel a little prick.

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    Im sorry man. Its ok to not want to engage. We all grieve differently. Just do you.
     
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    Sorry man. That’s gotta be tough. Hang in there,
     
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    Sorry to hear that man.
     
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    Shit John.......

    Let's go for a ride, eh?
     
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  28. JohnE

    JohnE filthy rascist

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    I would like that. Soon.
     
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    TN Hey baby, want a hot dog?

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    so sorry man.
    if you don't mind hiking, fishing or climbing with a dirty hippie, thats all I am gonna be doing this summer and always looking for bros to hang with.
     
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    I’m so sorry John. I know there isn’t anything I can say to help, except that I’m here and more than willing to talk anytime anyone needs it. Sending love
     
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    Damn John, that effing hits deep. talk to your friends and if it keeps eating at you go talk to a professional. Been there bro...
     
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    I hear ya man. I had a cousin get into a severe motorcycle accident and got a severe TBI. Her choice to stop the pain was a shotgun blast to the head.
     
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    you gunna pay my rent? pay for my surgery?

    words don't pay bills....
     
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