Those look beautiful J. The wings on Left were once on the on the right? Is that correct? The Skin is critical to a wing. Everything is important as I am sure you are aware. You are being to hard on yourself. A bbq to a fry is impossible to create. They will be different,again the skin takes on a different texture. For me,for what you are trying todo is like this.
season the wings,whole wings only for me. I would only Cut them after cooking,before the sauce. BBQ the wings and eat a whole wing when you think they are done. The skin must break away as you bite through it. Not springy,or need to pull on it for a clean bite,nor can it be or mushy,soft. Just a little effort. Then I put them in a Huge bowl and toss,then serve asap. Anyway,hope this helps.