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Jr_Bullit

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I can't believe that it's even possible these little twerps might get off and walk in normal society to do this to another girl...promiscuous or not.

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For 22 months, accused rapist Gregory Scott Haidl remained silent, letting defense lawyers—and, once, his middle finger—speak for him about his role in the videotaped gangbang of an unconscious minor. But on the eve of Orange County’s most sensational teen-sex-crimes trials, Haidl appeared on an April 21 national news broadcast and spoke for himself.

In a two-sentence statement, the 18-year-old blamed alcohol and then took no questions.

"We’d been drinking pretty heavily, and she showed up, and she started drinking," Haidl told CBS News about the July 2002 Newport Beach incident in which prosecutors say Haidl and high school buddies Kyle Nachreiner and Keith Spann gave a 16-year-old girl alcohol and marijuana and gang raped her after she fell unconscious. "Pretty much one thing lead to another, and we just started making stupid decisions."

Stupidity comes easily for Haidl. His father, wealthy Assistant Sheriff Don Haidl, has recently tried to bail his son out of everything from a minor drug bust to trespassing and the alleged sex felonies. But Haidl’s CBS statement is perhaps the closest thing to a confession we’re likely to get from defendants surrounded by an eight-member legal defense team (not including the publicist and army of private investigators). Though large and often angry, the Haidl team can’t decide on a consistent public-relations strategy for the teens who’ve pleaded not guilty to more than 20 felonies.

Following the CBS appearance, Haidl lawyer Peter Scalisi faced off against OC District Attorney Tony Rackauckas on the Fox News show Day Side with Linda Vester. Scalisi didn’t mention alcohol. He blamed society, the pornography industry and the then-unconscious girl for what happened after she was stripped, tossed on Haidl’s garage pool table and, as one OC judge said, used "like a piece of meat." Scalisi, however, believes the incident has been overblown.

"This [wild teenage group sex] is happening in every neighborhood in the country," he said. "It’s essentially become a national tragedy how much our teenage boys and girls are bombarded with images from the porn industry. [Jurors are] going to see this girl’s dream to become a porn star. . . . This young girl is a tragic figure."

Fox’s in-house audience groaned. Scalisi’s comments drove an often-mumbling Rackauckas to articulation. He replied firmly, "That is absolutely ridiculous." The DA then won applause when he said that the defendants had stolen the girl’s "humanity" by engaging in sex after they had "taken away her right" to willingly participate.

The defense media blitz continued on April 26, after a chain-smoking Don Haidl granted Los Angeles Times reporter Claire Luna an exclusive interview. In it, the assistant sheriff expressed sympathy for the alleged victim, called the incident a "stupid, terrible situation" and hailed his son as "the most kind, caring, sweet kid you’ve ever met in your life."

If jurors want a reason to side with the defendants, they won’t have to look far. By my count, the defense has now voiced at least seven major excuses. In addition to alcohol, porn and society, they’ve accused the Newport Beach police and San Bernardino County Sheriff’s Department of removing exonerating scenes from the videotape, a claim Judge Francisco Briseño ruled preposterous. They’ve blamed Rackauckas for taking a "harmless . . . teenage sexcapade" and making it into a felony case solely to bolster his career. They’ve even attacked the two individuals who "stole" Haidl’s 21-minute video and gave it to police. Haidl had a "reasonable expectation of privacy," his lawyers told Briseño. The judge ruled against them.

But most of the defense team’s wrath is aimed at the alleged rape victim, known in proceedings only as "Jane Doe." Earlier this year, lead Haidl defense lawyer Joseph G. Cavallo stood in court and, while smiling, said he had no intention of intimidating the girl. He must not have remembered that the defense had already tailed her, posted inflammatory fliers in her neighborhood and called her a "slut" who wants to be a "porn star" in open court. He suggested she was poor white trash eager for sex with a rich kid. On March 31, Cavallo sent the minor a legally unsupported letter demanding that she submit to defense-sponsored "comprehensive neurological and psychiatric" exams immediately before the scheduled May 3 trial start.

Don Haidl told the Times he didn’t agree with some of his defense team’s tactics but opined, "Lawyers have to do certain things to ensure success."

All of those things miss a simple point of law: it’s illegal in California to have sex with an unconscious person. (For those men who’ve e-mailed me on this point, please note the difference between unconscious and asleep.) Although the state’s supreme court rejected the notion of advance consent for sex in connection with a cataleptic person, Cavallo insists the defendants had an expectation of consent because they’d all had a sexual history with the girl.

Law-enforcement officers acknowledge the girl’s promiscuity but say it’s irrelevant once the girl fell unconscious. Even though two judges, the DA and the state attorney general say the girl appears lifeless on the video, Cavallo is expected to tell the jury she was faking. A prosecution source called that assertion "sickening."

Police who’ve seen the video say that while the girl was groggy but awake at the very beginning of filming, she resisted Haidl’s attempts to take off her shirt and flatly told him, "no" before falling unconscious. Soon after, one of the defendants held the girl’s arms up while another copulated her from behind. Later, the intensity of the sex almost forced the girl’s body off the pool table.

To prove the girl was feigning unconsciousness, the defense has some tough questions to answer: Why didn’t the girl recoil when the defendants shoved a Snapple bottle, juice can and lit cigarette into her vagina? Would a play-acting girl urinate on herself during group sex? Why didn’t she flinch when they spread her ass cheeks and took turns poking both ends of a pool stick into her anus?

If convicted, the defendants face as little as seven years and as many as 55 years in prison. "Look at them, they wouldn’t last a week [incarcerated]," one worried defense source said.

That fear shows most prominently on Don Haidl’s face. The assistant sheriff, who made a fortune selling used government cars and has been a major campaign contributor to Rackauckas, was recently huddled in a courtroom hallway with defense attorney Al Stokke, a longtime DA friend. It’s an open courthouse secret that Haidl’s team has sought a pretrial deal with the DA; in one proposal, the boys would accept nine-month sentences in exchange for guilty pleas. But veteran prosecutors Dan Hess and Brian Gurwitz don’t seem receptive to negotiations. And why should they? They’ve got Haidl’s graphic 21-minute video.

But Haidl’s defense team has an ace: John Barnett, who technically represents only co-defendant Kyle Nachreiner. If Cavallo and Scalisi are easily imagined as obnoxious bar patrons, Barnett is the consummate gentleman. He’s known for succeeding in long-shot cases. Most important, a filmed record of his client’s conduct has yet to defeat him. Barnett won acquittals for a police officer involved in the infamous Rodney King beating and, more recently, for the Inglewood cop who punched a handcuffed suspect. It’ll be up to Barnett to prove the camera blinked.
 

BurlyShirley

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Although the state’s supreme court rejected the notion of advance consent for sex in connection with a cataleptic person, Cavallo insists the defendants had an expectation of consent because they’d all had a sexual history with the girl.
Not defending the actions of these f***s by any means, because god knows if that'd been my daughter it'd be me on trial for murder right now, BUT, that statement does make things a bit different than if they'd just pulled some woman off the street and tied her up.

What do you think JrB?

I think yes, they're guilty of course of sexual assault and rape, but should there be degrees of this kind of thing?
 

RhinofromWA

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JR_B

You need shorter articles....

or I need a longer attention span. :D

Kid needs to get f'd over in court...all of the kids. drunk or not....they are responsible for what they did.

Girl needs a friend she trusts to tag along with her to places like this....and not smoke dope and drink until she passes out. :rolleyes: Unless she was slipped a sedative....I started to skim halfway through. Not saying she is at fault...but she could have prevented herself from being in the situation. But that is hindsight what the boys did is wrong and should be held accountable for what they did. I just wish other girls would THINK before getting themselfs into situations like that...I would rather her be nieve and safe than nieve and harmed. Buddy system, PLEASE. She is the victim here, but I hope other girls will wise up.

Dad is protecting is F-up son....if I was his dad I would let him fry. Stupid kid....yeah you CAN get in trouble, you dip **** kid.

Morons.
 

Jr_Bullit

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Not defending the actions of these f***s by any means, because god knows if that'd been my daughter it'd be me on trial for murder right now, BUT, that statement does make things a bit different than if they'd just pulled some woman off the street and tied her up.

What do you think JrB?

I think yes, they're guilty of course of sexual assault and rape, but should there be degrees of this kind of thing?
I dunno...let's think of it like this...

A boy meets a girl in a bar....they have a few....go home...have sex...she decides he sickens her and does not leave a phone number or anything, but does go back to that same bar with her girlfriends. He's pissed because she "dissed" him. Is it okay for him to now follow her to her car and then rape her?

Or how about this....

A girl and a guy date for a week, maybe two, maybe 6 months. During this time they are sexually intimate. Things end, not necessarily badly, but they do end. Guy decides he wants another shot at said girl and tries to convince her to join him for a drink. Since they have a nice history together, she agrees and shows. He gives her a drink...and then promptly rapes her.

Hrm...nope...neither of these work for me, sorry. Rape is rape. If the girl says no. I do know that there are women who cry wolf when it wasn't actually rape, but c'mon now...did you READ what those f*cks did to her? No way in hell would someone be conscious, or consenting for that. A f*cking snapple bottle? Hello....girls may be built to handle a guy, but no guy is that big...you're ripping her to shreds if you pull **** like that.

Maybe if it was just general sex, no torn up body, beat up little girl or anything, there might be a case for varying degrees of leniency...but not for this...
 

BurlyShirley

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit

Maybe if it was just general sex, no torn up body, beat up little girl or anything, there might be a case for varying degrees of leniency...but not for this...
Ok, i can see that.

How about this?

Man and woman meet at bar. Both get totally hammered. Wake up next morning, woman says "What am i doing here? You took advantage of me"
She goes to cops.
Man remembers sex, not much else. Woman says she says no.

who goes to jail?
 

Snacks

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Originally posted by RhinofromWA

Girl needs a friend she trusts to tag along with her to places like this....and not smoke dope and drink until she passes out. :rolleyes: Unless she was slipped a sedative....I started to skim halfway through. Not saying she is at fault...but she could have prevented herself from being in the situation. But that is hindsight what the boys did is wrong and should be held accountable for what they did. I just wish other girls would THINK before getting themselfs into situations like that...I would rather her be nieve and safe than nieve and harmed. Buddy system, PLEASE. She is the victim here, but I hope other girls will wise up.
This is not directed at you personally Rhino, but I'm sick of this type of thinking. How come it's always the women that need to think before they act? How about the guys? Maybe if they weren't such idiots they would know how wrong it is to do what they did to that girl. Shoving a pool stick up her ass? That is inhuman.

It makes me ill when I hear that she deserved it cause she was dressed like a hoe, or in a place that she shouldn't have been. I never her that about men...he deserved it cause he was wearing a belly shirt in a dark alley alone.
 

$tinkle

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what to do is rather simple: quid pro quo.

oh, and that whole lit cigarette in the vagina thing, well, he should have one carved out first. That should set things in order.
 

Jr_Bullit

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Ok, i can see that.

How about this?

Man and woman meet at bar. Both get totally hammered. Wake up next morning, woman says "What am i doing here? You took advantage of me"
She goes to cops.
Man remembers sex, not much else. Woman says she says no.

who goes to jail?
Burly, are you going to turn this into another saga of "The Woes of Men"?

Yes this **** happens, as I mentioned previously, even I know of women who cry 'rape' when in reality it really wasn't like that, and yeah, the dude often gets the shaft...but...a woman who cries rape doesn't get a whole lotta lovin from the authorities who have heard these tales, if there isn't physical evidence to prove it. If she didn't want you, and you had to force it, you left some damage behind, and even with a shower, that damage can be seen.
If she said no, you did it anyways, and she resisted absolutely not the slightest bit, but mentally she didn't want to, there's these neat little muscles down there, that get awfully tight, and you still gotta push through em and tear her up a bit.

Physical proof baby, you raped her, there will be damage. If you didn't rape her and she cries 'rape' anyways, then it's gonna come down to who's got the better lawyer.
 

RhinofromWA

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
I dunno...let's think of it like this...

A boy meets a girl in a bar....they have a few....go home...have sex...she decides he sickens her and does not leave a phone number or anything, but does go back to that same bar with her girlfriends. He's pissed because she "dissed" him. Is it okay for him to now follow her to her car and then rape her?
Rape is never OK JR_B.

BUT, what the hell was she doing there drinking and smoking dope so she passes out with a bunch of boys she semi knows/had sex in the past with?

She made some BIG mistakes that night....and was victimized. The men should be charge with their crimes.

Mistakes:
1) Buddy System: No buddy to pull her out when she was passing out.
2) Partying to pass out: getting sh!tty there in the first place....by herself.
3) Hanging with trouble: these kids were trouble from the get go.

She was pretty dumb to get herself in that situation. I am sorry that happened to her. I hope the boys get appropiate jail time.

All this could have been avoided.

Like Defensive driving...it helps keep you out of trouble even when everyone is a moron. She could have kept this from happening to her before it got to far. Now that it has happened....I hope she can find some peace in the boys doing time.

There is no excuse for the boys actions...make them some inmates prison bitch.

Rhino
 

BurlyShirley

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
Burly, are you going to turn this into another saga of "The Woes of Men"?
No, i was just trying to illustrate an example of why there might need to be degrees for this kind of thing....like murder, y'know? I mean lets say a girl says yes, and then passes out halfway through...is it okay to keep going then?
 

RhinofromWA

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Originally posted by Snacks
This is not directed at you personally Rhino, but I'm sick of this type of thinking. How come it's always the women that need to think before they act? How about the guys? Maybe if they weren't such idiots they would know how wrong it is to do what they did to that girl. Shoving a pool stick up her ass? That is inhuman.

It makes me ill when I hear that she deserved it cause she was dressed like a hoe, or in a place that she shouldn't have been. I never her that about men...he deserved it cause he was wearing a belly shirt in a dark alley alone.
No worries Snacks.

There is something to be said about keeping ones self out of trouble.

What the boys did was not right by any means. The boys didn't think and they will be punished. It is also wrong to expect everyone to be angels....the world is full of evil SOB's...so beware.

Never said she deserved it....far from it. I said she could have prevented it...but now that it has happened. Send teh boys up the river to be some inmates bitch.

She went to a party with a bunch of jackasses.
she drank and smoked until she passed out with the jackasses.
None of these choices was smart. It does not excuse the boys at all, but it should wake up some girls to what can happen. A buddy could have pulled her out of troubles way....she could have drank/smoked less....not gone to jackasses house to party anyway. These are all things to help prevent something like that from happening.

Now that it has happened....the boys need to be severly punished and there is another lady out on the streets withthis horrible experience that will follow her for the rest of her life.

Just hoped it could have been prevented....can be prevented in the future.

Rhino
 

Jr_Bullit

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
No, i was just trying to illustrate an example of why there might need to be degrees for this kind of thing....like murder, y'know? I mean lets say a girl says yes, and then passes out halfway through...is it okay to keep going then?
For most normal guys that i know...such an affront to their prowess in bed would lead to immediate shrinkage.

Personally, the fact that someone can even get it up when the opposite person is totally unwilling, or passed out is disgusting! (Not including sleep, because if you're sleeping with someone, your body can respond to them - this difference was also identified during the aritcle if you follow the link).

Besides, it's a moot point...they weren't already in the throws of passion when she passed out...the boys began their fun after she was out of it.
 

BurlyShirley

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
For most normal guys that i know...such an affront to their prowess in bed would lead to immediate shrinkage.

Personally, the fact that someone can even get it up when the opposite person is totally unwilling, or passed out is disgusting! (Not including sleep, because if you're sleeping with someone, your body can respond to them - this difference was also identified during the aritcle if you follow the link).

Besides, it's a moot point...they weren't already in the throws of passion when she passed out...the boys began their fun after she was out of it.
Ok, first, Im not talking about that article, Im just trying to see what you think about certain stuff.
Secondly, a girl falling asleep sure would lead to shrinkage with me:devil: I mean, I've never been in the situation, but i dont see what it'd matter (biologically speaking that is). But what Im wondering is if that'd be considered rape, since she wasnt conscious to changer her mind during mid-stroke if she wanted to.

Whatcha think?
 

Jr_Bullit

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Ok, first, Im not talking about that article, Im just trying to see what you think about certain stuff.
Secondly, a girl falling asleep sure would lead to shrinkage with me:devil: I mean, I've never been in the situation, but i dont see what it'd matter (biologically speaking that is). But what Im wondering is if that'd be considered rape, since she wasnt conscious to changer her mind during mid-stroke if she wanted to.

Whatcha think?
Well...I think I'd have to argue that a girl who said yes then passed out was probably not fully cognizant when she gave her permission in the first place. I'd say that while there probably wouldn't be any physical damage, if she woke up and said...dude what the??? I don't remember any of that! You could be in for a trying time proving that you did actually have her consent.

I mean...in the end, it boils down to your word against hers. If you'd been around witnesses who could attest to her lack of awareness due to alcohol/drugs or whatever, then you could be up the creek.
 

BurlyShirley

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
Well...I think I'd have to argue that a girl who said yes then passed out was probably not fully cognizant when she gave her permission in the first place. I'd say that while there probably wouldn't be any physical damage, if she woke up and said...dude what the??? I don't remember any of that! You could be in for a trying time proving that you did actually have her consent.

I mean...in the end, it boils down to your word against hers. If you'd been around witnesses who could attest to her lack of awareness due to alcohol/drugs or whatever, then you could be up the creek.
Ok, I can see how legally, id likely be found guilty of rape but would I morally be wrong if I were equally drunk?

EDIT: I realize that ive completely switch to first person here, but let me assure you, this is in no way an indictment of anything on my behalf. Regardless of what you may see on the national news in coming weeks.:eek: :devil:
 

Jr_Bullit

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Ok, I can see how legally, id likely be found guilty of rape but would I morally be wrong if I were equally drunk?

EDIT: I realize that ive completely switch to first person here, but let me assure you, this is in no way an indictment of anything on my behalf. Regardless of what you may see on the national news in coming weeks.:eek: :devil:
IF you could prove it...probably not. But this is all hypothetical, I'm not a lawyer, and I'm not a judge or jury. I'm afraid in such a situation IF she cried rape, you'd still be having to deal with a whole lotta bs.
 

BurlyShirley

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
IF you could prove it...probably not. But this is all hypothetical, I'm not a lawyer, and I'm not a judge or jury. I'm afraid in such a situation IF she cried rape, you'd still be having to deal with a whole lotta bs.
I think so too....which is why i think there should be a scale for rape cases...like murder. ie. 1st 2nd 3rd degree....etc.
 

Spud

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Not defending the actions of these f***s by any means, because god knows if that'd been my daughter it'd be me on trial for murder right now, BUT, that statement does make things a bit different than if they'd just pulled some woman off the street and tied her up.

What do you think JrB?

I think yes, they're guilty of course of sexual assault and rape, but should there be degrees of this kind of thing?
Prosecutor’s have fairly wide latitude in their ability to charge for a single attack - not in any applicable order, sexual battery, sexual assault, rape, statutory rape, kidnapping, unlawful imprisonment, sexual assault/battery of a minor. The sentencing guidelines vary depending upon what is charged.
 

Jr_Bullit

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I also think it's disgusting the lack of remorse on the part of the boys...

I mean, right now we've been talking about the actual event...but the part where the boys were putting up posters around town defaming her as a slut....Think about how awful she must feel. I hope she has a good family that is doing what they can to support her. You know she's going to be called to the witness stand....poor kid is probably just gonna fall apart.

And Rhino...everyone gets into shady situations periodically in life. It's part of life and growing up. There are very few kids that you can point a finger at and say, yep, that kid over there has never ever done anything wrong, or been around the wrong kind of people. You only have to fall into the wrong situation once for things to go even worse.
 

RhinofromWA

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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
And Rhino...everyone gets into shady situations periodically in life. It's part of life and growing up. There are very few kids that you can point a finger at and say, yep, that kid over there has never ever done anything wrong, or been around the wrong kind of people. You only have to fall into the wrong situation once for things to go even worse.
Hold on. You don't jump in an aligator pit and assume that they will behave!

Sure we can get yourself into sicky situations, but this was preventable with something as simple as having a friend along with her. It wasn't prevented, now we have to deal with it all....but it could just as easily not have happened. They didn't drive by and steal her from the street.

She didn't fall into a bad situation....she waltzed in. She was reckless in that she partied hard with a group of boys that are anything but friends, without a buddy to watch out for her. This was very much preventable....it is terrible that it happened, and the boys should be punished.

But saying "oh well **** happens" and "you can't help it".....is flat out wrong. This was preventable....with little effort from her. Doesn't make what happened to her any less the boys fault. It just can keep you from getting in that situation. Preach some prevention with your prosecution.....

I liken it to Defensive driving again. You can still drive, but be alert. It is much more effective to be an active part in keeping yourself out of an accident, than hoping everyone around you drives like angels. Not paying attention to road signs (big cautionary ones especially) and ignoring what is happening will put you into a pole or in a ditch before you know it.

Rhino
 

Jr_Bullit

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Originally posted by RhinofromWA
Hold on. You don't jump in an aligator pit and assume that they will behave!

Sure we can get yourself into sicky situations, but this was preventable with something as simple as having a friend along with her. It wasn't prevented, now we have to deal with it all....but it could just as easily not have happened. They didn't drive by and steal her from the street.

She didn't fall into a bad situation....she waltzed in. She was reckless in that she partied hard with a group of boys that are anything but friends, without a buddy to watch out for her. This was very much preventable....it is terrible that it happened, and the boys should be punished.

But saying "oh well **** happens" and "you can't help it".....is flat out wrong. This was preventable....with little effort from her. Doesn't make what happened to her any less the boys fault. It just can keep you from getting in that situation. Preach some prevention with your prosecution.....

I liken it to Defensive driving again. You can still drive, but be alert. It is much more effective to be an active part in keeping yourself out of an accident, than hoping everyone around you drives like angels. Not paying attention to road signs (big cautionary ones especially) and ignoring what is happening will put you into a pole or in a ditch before you know it.

Rhino
Lol...this one could go back and forth a bit methinks :).

In the article it was directly stated that a) the girl knew the boys b) had some prior sexual history with some of them c) was known to be fairly promiscuous.

The author seemed to try to present both sides of the case, somewhat.

Yeah, it could have been prevented if she'd not gone there but:

I'm guessing (and yes, draw me through the fire for guessing), that she did not think it was an unsafe situation. If you have history with a few folks, not necessarily the desireable folks, but if you have history with them you're not going to be afraid of walking through the door and probably joining in past behavior with them, only this time it went too far and she passed out...and the kind of animals those boys really were became all too apparent.

I know we all kinda walked through teenage hood with tinted glasses on. You see what you want to of what's going on around you. But I very much remember girls that are probably a lot like this one, and are very lucky to not have been in such a situation.

Most kids, by the time they hit teenage hood are not as carefully guarded by their parents as they were when they were babes. Most are let run wild, most eventually bump into the wrong sorts of kids. If your parents stopped really being overprotective when you were still uber young, chance are your knowledge of right and wrong, dangerous and scary are going to be taught to you through the school of hard knocks. This girl is probably from a rougher home, she probably came across or was promiscuous in an effort to gain some attention, she probably found the boys attractive because of the "danger" and "riskiness" they exuded for drinking and such. She's from a poorer background, they're wealthy and have access to things she doesn't. Sounds to me like a scary situation for abuse to begin and her not even know it until the boys got out of control.

At least...that is the picture I got from reading the article.
 

Snacks

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Originally posted by RhinofromWA
Hold on. You don't jump in an aligator pit and assume that they will behave!

Sure we can get yourself into sicky situations, but this was preventable with something as simple as having a friend along with her. It wasn't prevented, now we have to deal with it all....but it could just as easily not have happened. They didn't drive by and steal her from the street.

She didn't fall into a bad situation....she waltzed in. She was reckless in that she partied hard with a group of boys that are anything but friends, without a buddy to watch out for her. This was very much preventable....it is terrible that it happened, and the boys should be punished.

But saying "oh well **** happens" and "you can't help it".....is flat out wrong. This was preventable....with little effort from her. Doesn't make what happened to her any less the boys fault. It just can keep you from getting in that situation. Preach some prevention with your prosecution.....

I liken it to Defensive driving again. You can still drive, but be alert. It is much more effective to be an active part in keeping yourself out of an accident, than hoping everyone around you drives like angels. Not paying attention to road signs (big cautionary ones especially) and ignoring what is happening will put you into a pole or in a ditch before you know it.

Rhino
I agree....the whole thing was preventable, but how about preventable from the guys side of it. From the article it mentions the main guy comes from wealthy back ground....could it be that he is used to getting what he wants? Could it be that his father always bailing his ass out of trouble makes him ignorant to laws and consequences of society?
 

Velocity Girl

whack-a-mole
Sep 12, 2001
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Originally posted by RhinofromWA
Hold on. You don't jump in an aligator pit and assume that they will behave!

Sure we can get yourself into sicky situations, but this was preventable with something as simple as having a friend along with her. It wasn't prevented, now we have to deal with it all....but it could just as easily not have happened. They didn't drive by and steal her from the street.

She didn't fall into a bad situation....she waltzed in. She was reckless in that she partied hard with a group of boys that are anything but friends, without a buddy to watch out for her. This was very much preventable....it is terrible that it happened, and the boys should be punished.

But saying "oh well **** happens" and "you can't help it".....is flat out wrong. This was preventable....with little effort from her. Doesn't make what happened to her any less the boys fault. It just can keep you from getting in that situation. Preach some prevention with your prosecution.....

I liken it to Defensive driving again. You can still drive, but be alert. It is much more effective to be an active part in keeping yourself out of an accident, than hoping everyone around you drives like angels. Not paying attention to road signs (big cautionary ones especially) and ignoring what is happening will put you into a pole or in a ditch before you know it.

Rhino

I agree with you Rhino....what the boys did was WRONG, no second guessing that. And she is in no way to blame. But it is sad that with a little forethought, she might have been able to prevent herself from ending up in such a situation.

My friends and I on more than one occasion were know to getting rip-roaring drunk and have to babysit each other. We watched out for one another, and only let each other pass out in safe places.....and yes, one of them for us was a fraternity house...and was probably the safetest place on campus for us because they were like brothers to us! It took 2 nights of me going out drinking without my "safety" friends to realize that I either I needed to control my drinking, or not do it at all! It really sucks that people should even have to worry about being harmed when they can't defend themselves, or even when they can...but unfortunately, that's the world we live in :(
 

jimmydean

The Official Meat of Ridemonkey
Sep 10, 2001
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Originally posted by Jr_Bullit
I also think it's disgusting the lack of remorse on the part of the boys...

I mean, right now we've been talking about the actual event...but the part where the boys were putting up posters around town defaming her as a slut....Think about how awful she must feel.
Kinda like Kobe Bryant's legal team.

This happend to an ex-girlfriend of mine when she dumped me in boot camp. She was all torn up about it because she is the reason I joined the Navy to begin with. She went back a friends house who was having a party and got wasted. She was the only female with 6 guys, all drinking and whatnot. She had been taken advantage of, but all the guys involved say it was all her doing.

Nobody got in trouble and I didn't find out until many years later (this was '91, found out last year). I'm still pissed because 4 of the guys there were thought of as friends. She still says it was her fault for passing out when I say it was the guys faults for not protecting her.

Yes, she should not have gotten that messed up, but is that grounds for concent? If this person was considered a friend, then there is no sex. You wouldn't do it if one of your guy friends passes out, would you?

"New drinking game. First one who passes out gets gang raped!"
 

Silver

find me a tampon
Jul 20, 2002
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This is obviously different from the Kobe Bryant case, due to the videotape. It's not he says, she says, it's Mini-DV camera vs. he says.

And I'd hazard a guess as to why they don't have any remorse: They probably don't think they did anything wrong.
 

RhinofromWA

Brevity R Us
Aug 16, 2001
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Lynnwood, WA
Originally posted by Snacks
I agree....the whole thing was preventable, but how about preventable from the guys side of it. From the article it mentions the main guy comes from wealthy back ground....could it be that he is used to getting what he wants? Could it be that his father always bailing his ass out of trouble makes him ignorant to laws and consequences of society?
It is preventable from the guys side....he chose to commit the act, now he will pay for it. I don't care to hear slimey lawyer excuses that the boy didn't know better. He still committed the crime. I don't believe ignorance can be used as a defense.

I agree his dad has sheltered his son....

That kid is a spoiled, protected little punk and I am more than willing to stick my size 10 shoe up his arse as he goes into prison....just to loosen him up. ;) Being drunk, high, spoiled are no excuse for what they did....and I hope that dad's legal team can't defend him as much as he hopes.
 

LordOpie

MOTHER HEN
Oct 17, 2002
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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Ok, I can see how legally, id likely be found guilty of rape but would I morally be wrong if I were equally drunk?
That's a fvcked up situation there if both parties are drunk and she claims rape. Hell, he might be more regretful for sleeping with her than she is with him. I'm not proud to say I've slept with a few women I shouldn't have.



And G-d help me for saying this, but Rhino is 100% right about everything. And if you don't see that, then you're blinded by emotions. The boys are evil, but she shouldn't have been there without a wing-woman.