Unimaginable stress

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  1. MMike

    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    So this guy I work with.....

    His wife went into labour about 3 weeks ago.....about 3 months early. Baby was born at 3 lbs. His torso is the same length as my palm apparently. Since his birth, they've only been allowed to hold him 4 times. He's intabated, and drinking breast milk through a tube in his nose.

    All in all however, he's doing ok and should be allowed to go home in March sometime.

    Today the poor little guy is having heart surgery to repair a valve that isn't quite right. My co-worker is staying pretty upbeat. I guess you'd have to!

    And it's so hard for me to not go say, "Holy crap! I can't imagine having to go through all of that!". I mean Emily was 3 WEEKS early and was itty bitty at 6 lbs. How tiny a 3 pounder must be!!

    Anyway, things should work themselves out. But of all the people in the world, this guy does not deserve to be going though this....
     
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  2. brungeman

    brungeman I give a shirt

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    hey that is rough, but keep encouraging him, my nephew is 27 now, and this story is almost identical to his. He had to undergo another set of surgeries when he was 6 or 7 yo. They thought that he may have to have another set in his early 20's, but they think that things have worked themselves out!

    I wish your friend all the luck! the NICU units do some amazing things with premie's! :thumb:
     
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  3. X3pilot

    X3pilot Texans fan - LOL

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    Keep supporting him. Babies seem to me to be the most resilent creatures on earth! Good thoughts going that way..
     
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  4. I Are Baboon

    I Are Baboon Run, Forrest, Run!

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    My nephew was born three months early. He was less than three pounds when he was born. He was tiny. He spent the first few months of his life in intensive care. He's three years old now and perfectly healthy. Doctors can do amazing things.
     
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  5. Potroast88

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    My Girlfriend is a Respiratory Therapist and she works in the Neonatal ICU and gets to see some pretty amazing stuff everyday. You'd be surprised what a baby can endure. I'm sure your buddy's baby will be fine.
     
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  6. BurlyShirley

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    A hearty shaking?


    My little bro was born 3 mos. early and tiny like that...he's 5 years now and pretty normal. He had to be on some heart/breathing monitor for 6 months or something, but he made it fine. He's a little sh*t though.

    Dont have kids in your 40s.
     
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  7. splat

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    My sisters Daughter ( my Niece ) was born 3 1/2 months early , she weighed in at 1 pound 14 oz , she is fine now , still timy though .
     
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  8. loco-gringo

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    It's not really unimaginable. I imagine it's awful, but super cool he seems steady. I hope it stays that way.
     
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  9. MMike

    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    my mistake...surgery is tomorrow.

    Anyway....it's just a hell of a way to have your first baby. It's scary enough when everything happens the way it's supposed to....
     
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  10. LordOpie

    LordOpie MOTHER HEN

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    I am thankful for every day that our baby stays inside. We're due the same time as your co-worker's so-called due month.

    We were supposed to visit family this month, but some red flags have indicated a possible pre-term delivery, so I'd rather be home if that happens than traveling.

    Our best to your co-worker.
     
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    Wow! Modern medicine is amazing. I wish them all the best. And here I was doing everything in my power to get Syd out when my due date came and went!!!
     
  12. H8R

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    Damn. I didn't need to read this thread!

    Best of luck to the tiny guy.
     
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    LordOpie MOTHER HEN

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    I hope that wass just a general "didn't need to read" and that your wife and baby are ok.
     
  14. H8R

    H8R Cranky Pants

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    They're doing just fine. Baby's current knick name is "Kicky".

    We discovered on NYE that the baby does not yet like Neurosis. My wife was only able to catch one song before retreating. The baby was freaking out.

    Fvcking sound guy! :rant:


    Other than that everything is great. Morning sickness and gagging never went away, so that's getting on her nerves though.
     
  15. Jeremy R

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    No doubt.
    I am ignoring all things negative.
    I am stressed out enough over a normal pregnancy, much less the horrible things some people have to go through.

    Best wishes to the little homie.
     
  16. LordOpie

    LordOpie MOTHER HEN

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    Just tell her to relax her throat.
     
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    Cool, it is showing signs of intelligence.
     
  18. H8R

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    :disgust1:

    You guys are so crass.
     
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    Hope everything works out for'um.

    My wife is due in May.
     
  20. MMike

    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    FYI, surgery went well..... took about an hour and a half. No issues. They figure that by Monday or so, he'll be completely out of the woods.

    Apparently the surgeon referred to him as a "giant". Apparently most of the babies he works on are like 500-600 grams!!!!

    But yeah. Good news.
     
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    keep us posted!
     
  22. Mike B.

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    A friend's (first) daughter was born several months early at 1lb 14oz and is doing well now. I think she'll be 3 next month.

    They all pulled through the stressful situation and just had their second a couple months back which was full term and over 8lbs I believe.
     
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    When my son was born (full term in the end) I did some reading on premmies, apparently the survival rate for babies born at 28 weeks is over 95%, 32 weeks is over 98%. They can do some amazing stuff nowadays. The threshold for survivability seems to be getting lower and lower.
    My sister is 3 months gone, looks like a trip to Old Blighty is on the cards for August. Can't wait....might have to look up that Fluff bastard too, I owe him a pint or 3.:thumb:
     
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    Several months early @ 2lbs 3ounces. I was literally hatched, and come out all right. There is always hope at the end of the road as long as the hatchling has fight in em.

    Actually one the bigger guys around at 225 lbs now:poster_oops:

    Maybe being hatched has a genetic link to being poor at math?

    Tell em to buck up.

    Mizz
     
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    Was on time and I suck at math.
     
  27. MMike

    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    Kiddo is doing really well....up around 5-1/2 lbs now. Starting to be able to eat on his own.
     
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    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    Big news....little guy is on his way home from the hospital for the first time.

    I couldn't be happier for them.....
     
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    good stuff!

    :clapping::thumb:
     
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    That's awesome!

    Our eldest daughter was born with situs inversus (all of her internal organs developed in a mirror image of a normal person). She's fine, but there was a time when we didn't know if she would need heart surgery for this. Those were stressful times indeed.
     
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    He'll be changing diapers and telling the little carpet commando to sit still before he knows what ever hit him.
     
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    Oh yeah, come watch my 3yr old take a dump when he is constipated. That looks like unimaginable stress.
     
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    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    Thanks but I have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old....

    (Apparently with the opposite problem today.....I don't want to go home)
     
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    Ha!

    Our 3 month old had "frothy" diapers 2 days ago...glad I was at work....
     
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    :clapping::clapping::clapping::clapping::clapping:
    Lotta babies in our corner in the past year, so we have plenty of sympathy for "first time daddy stress"
    Congrats, pops!
     
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    :clapping: That is truly AWESOME news!!! I am so happy for them all!
     
  38. MMike

    MMike A fowl peckerwood.

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    So.....while our little buddy is doing just, he too has recently been diagnosed with autism. He's been mostly non-verbal. poor eye contact etc. But he's getting lots of support from the hospital. Fortunately he's getting very early intervention. So that should make a big difference.

    In a company of 60 people, 3 of us with kids on the autism spectrum. (one of them is Asperger's). weird.
     
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    Normally I'd make a Canada joke, but that's too tasteless, even for me.


    I have a cousin with Asperger's. Kid does/says the funniest things without even realizing it.
     
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    Tough reading stuff like this when you are a farther. I am getting verklempt.