when she is not "in the mood"

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  1. ALEXIS_DH

    ALEXIS_DH Tirelessly Awesome

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    WTF??????????
    i guess i´ve been lucky enough in 25 years of life (just turned this wekend) to never having to face such a definitive "am not in the mood honey" as i did yesterday.

    like seriously, she was just there, sleeping... i asked if there was anything wrong, i went thru my head thinking "did i say something wrong here in the last few hours?", but apparently not, i didnt... she was all fine with me (apparently). it was just that she was really "not in the mood".

    well, she had to move today and, granted, many things to think about... and we hadnt been sleeping more than a few hours a night lately.... although yesterday we took like a 4 hour after-lunch nap post quickie, before going out for dinner.

    then we came back to watch a movie and drink some wine... which we couldnt, the dvd player wouldnt work, and we tried to watch some B movie on tv... she had a glass of wine... and then.. poof!, she felt sleep while i was watching the movie.... and then the atrocity of a non negotiable "not in the mood".

    the blunt reality was, she was there, sleeping on her side and me just trying to sleep, with half a bottle of wine on the table.

    damn, that sucks.
    so what?.. is this how life turns when you get old???
     

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  2. Jeremy R

    Jeremy R <b>x</b>

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    Sounds like that chick needs a pot of coffee and a showstopper.
     
  3. loco-gringo

    loco-gringo Crusading Clamp Monkey

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    In reality, this should have only been a concern for the last several years, so I have to assume you have a lot more of it to look forward to.
     
  4. ALEXIS_DH

    ALEXIS_DH Tirelessly Awesome

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    i mean... i just sigh and think about the the good ol´ days, when being sleepy wasnt considered a reason to refrain :busted:
     
  5. TN

    TN Hey baby, want a hot dog?

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    I bet she is knocked up.
     
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    Konabumm Konaboner

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    it happens - grab some porn find a nice private section of your home and poof problem solved and you'll be sleeping next to her before you know it!
     
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    geargrrl Turbo Monkey

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    get a grip - sounds like you've got an exhausted, stressed out woman there and you can't handle the occasional "not tonight"? Wouldn't you rather wait until she feels better and is more willing?
     
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    Women can say no in South America???
     
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    ALEXIS_DH Tirelessly Awesome

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    i would normally.... thing is, she´s got a great job 8 hours away... which means the end of our relationship and we wont be seeing each anymore in about a week from today, maybe aside a short friendly visit or something like that. :plthumbsdown:
     
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    loco-gringo Crusading Clamp Monkey

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    Can you say "back burner"??? Looks like she already put you there.
     
  11. fluff

    fluff Monkey Turbo

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    How well can you read between the lines?
     
  12. blue

    blue boob hater

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    Too often my friend, too often.

    However, in your case, it sounds like you're about to be thrown out with the bath water.
     
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    ALEXIS_DH Tirelessly Awesome

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    haha, yeah, we know its over, and talked it over... we are just trying to spend our last days together as much as possible, since i cannot move over there and she got a kickass job there.
     
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    ALEXIS_DH Tirelessly Awesome

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    i know... its been talked at large, believe me. this is an opportunity she cant let go, and i cant move because i am about to buy property, the machinery and start a business i´ve been working on for the last 2 years.
    life taking different roads and nothing to do about it, unless extreme sacrifices are made unilaterally which would not be fair.

    it adds up to the weirdness that among these last 2 weeks full of great "goodbyes" she was all of a sudden "not in the mood".
     
  15. GiantRider

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    Omg, i can not believe some of the responses from you people, and how much i totally agree!Haha.Dude your girl proly just had a long day and was really tired,nothing else to worry about.Me and my girl used to never be tired(wink wink)but now it happens all to often.
     
  16. OGRipper

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    If this is seriously the first time this has ever happened, she is either a great girl or you are not trying often enough.

    :busted:
     
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    Seeing as how nobody directly answered your question, I will gladly do the honors.










    No.
     
  18. ridefast

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    25 is old?!

    and remember, the average woman doesnt enter her sexual peak until she is 30-40

    or maybe you bore her? try throwing some excitement her way, something unexpected and fun
     
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    I'm with OG on this...
     
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    penny in a jar: Every time you have sex during the 1st two years you are with your girl put a penny in the jar. Ever time you have sex after two years take a penny out. I 100% guarentee you will never ever empty the jar.
     
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    So true on so many levels.
     
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    Sometimes, when my woman will not walk with me, I must walk with myself.

     
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    JohnE filthy rascist

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    If you make a Walken mask, you'll NEVER run into problems like this again.
     
  25. ALEXIS_DH

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    :clapping:
     
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    wow, if a one time "not in the mood" made you that upset then don't EVER have kids! your nookie time has to be planned like a friggin ninja mission and then you hope that by the time you're supposed to rendezvous she hasn't had her fill of screaming kiddies and passed out on the couch. ;)

    but that's why they make games like call of duty 4 :D
     
  28. OGRipper

    OGRipper Turbo Monkey

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    So, you go and get yourself to a war video game when she's not in the mood? That's some kinky shizz right there.

    :clapping:
     
  29. Broken_Spoke

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    Well when you think about it shooting a gun and having sex aren't that far apart.
     
  30. H8R

    H8R Cranky Pants

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    I have an empty jar with a pile of pennies next to it.

    :D
     
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  32. H8R

    H8R Cranky Pants

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    That's got nothing to do w/ it. Married, been together almost 8 years now.

    Did I say empty jar? More like empty cement mixer.





    :think:
     
  33. Dartman

    Dartman Old Bastard Mike

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    I've been married 26 years.

    My wife and I now have "Hall sex", when we pass each other in the hall we say "Fvck you" to each other.

    :p
     
  34. manimal

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    I'm with ya bro. married for 9 years now and although there were some sparse periods, particularly with my girls being born 17 months apart :twitch:
    but now, things are good...really good, so there is hope for you married monkey's expecting kids. it all transitions over to quality over quantity :pirate2:
     
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    Careful.........lil' manimal could be reading this.......don't want to scar the kid for life.:busted::rofl:
     
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    eh...he walked in on us when he was 3, i think he was standing there for a few minutes before we noticed him. elbows propped up on the end of the bed..."what doing?" "uh....ummm.....GET BACK IN YOUR BED!" :rofl: :D
     
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    Wait until there are kids and then enjoy the total downhill spiral.
     
  38. moff_quigley

    moff_quigley Why don't you have a seat over there?

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    LOL. Sarah caught us once in the middle of good mornin' lovin' when she was around two..."Whatchu doing? Whatchu doing to my mommy?":busted:
     
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    We still talkin' about the place where you put the money?