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Spud

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I almost started to feel sorry for Randall Terry until I kept reading.

The prodigal son title is pretty funny considering he won't let his son back in his home until he proves worthy in Dad's eyes...

May you keep reaping what you sow....
 

Silver

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Jul 20, 2002
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Originally posted by drtbikrr
I hate all these special privileges that all these gays are trying to get, "I'm Gay now bow down to me because I'm so courageous for saying that" its like me asking for special rights because I'm fat. It doesn't make sense, you're gay, congradu****inlations.
Nick
And that is relevant to this story....how, exactly?
 

RhinofromWA

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I can't help but think the trueth to the story lies inbetween what OUT and Mr Terry hve reported.

If the story can't get the age he was adopted right....:eek:

I can see him shunning him from family events after being focused on in a magazine for homosexuals. Considering what Mr Terry does and believes in. If he felt betrayed than saying he isn't welcome right now is not unheard of.....

Sounds like a messed up family like other families around the country, but this one is getting national coverage. I would be pissed too.

I would have liked to read a letter from his son correcting errors(if there were any) but I can see a father responding to allegations (true or not) in the article.

Rhino
 

911

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Feb 28, 2002
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Originally posted by drtbikrr
I hate all these special privileges that all these gays are trying to get
They're not fighting for special prilvileges, they're fighting for equal privileges. During the civil rights movement I'm sure there were a lot of people saying the same thing... "I hate all these special privileges that all these niggers are trying to get, like eating at our resturants and using our drinking fountains" This is about equal treatment, not special privilege.
 

$tinkle

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Feb 12, 2003
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Originally posted by Silver
Maybe he sold you out because he knows that you hate what he is, Daddy?

Just a thought...
then how do you justify/explain/rationalize this?
He was recently arrested for DWI; he is knowingly writing bad checks on a closed bank account; he dropped out of school; he doesn't have a job (and refuses to get one); he bounces from house to house living off other people; he's racked-up huge bills for friends and family that he cannot pay; he's been taken to court by former friends to get him to pay money he owed them; he's lied to his friends, telling them his "famous dad" was going to send him money to pay for his debts (I get calls or e-mails from college friends looking for money); he has "borrowed" money from countless numbers of my friends; he has a trail of wrecked friendships and family relationships because of deceit, money fraud and crossed boundaries – a mirror image of the home he was in from birth to 8.
surely even you can recognize through your jaded lens that he sold his father out in a desperate attempt to get money, not to teach him a lesson. $5000 to crucify a major enemy of the gay community is peanuts. I see a pattern here of self-destruction fueled by self-hate, not wisdom trying to disciple his wayward father. This lad lacks even a modicum of discernment.

lastly, how could his dad not expect him to end up gay?
He is articulate and handsome. He sings like an angel, he plays the piano, he's a great cook, and he's a great debater.
this could be you, except for that last part. I guess that's the only thing that keeps you from being a pillow-biter. :D


man, the one week i don't read wnd...
 

$tinkle

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Originally posted by Spud
I almost started to feel sorry for Randall Terry until I kept reading.

The prodigal son title is pretty funny considering he won't let his son back in his home until he proves worthy in Dad's eyes...

May you keep reaping what you sow....
so, you don't so much subscribe to "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice shame on me", but rather he should let his son kick him in the nutz again? :confused:
Originally posted by 911
They're not fighting for special prilvileges, they're fighting for equal privileges. During the civil rights movement I'm sure there were a lot of people saying the same thing... "I hate all these special privileges that all these niggers are trying to get, like eating at our resturants and using our drinking fountains" This is about equal treatment, not special privilege.
i see.
so, mathew shepherd = 1,000,000 or so who were lynched.
Being black is immutable. Being gay is not. If you disagree, take it up w/ ann heche.

(michael jackson doesn't count)
 

911

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Originally posted by $tinkle
so, mathew shepherd = 1,000,000 or so who were lynched.
Of course blacks experienced discrimination on a much larger scale, yet the mentality which it was based on is similar. Just because gays, or any other group for that matter, are not being lynched by the dozen, that's no excuse to deny them equal treatment under the law.

Originally posted by $tinkle
Being black is immutable. Being gay is not.
Yes, there is inherent plasticity in human sexulity, yet being gay (or bisexual, etc...) isn't just some decision you come to one day with the ability to "go back to being normal" any time you'd like. This is just the way some people are... they don't really have a choice in the matter, and as much as some people hate to admit, they have done nothing wrong and therefore deserve the same rights as anyone else.
 

Silver

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Two other thoughts:


One: If the guy who fronts Operation Rescue can't raise a God fearing heterosexual, (and I know this isn't statistically significant, because the sample size is 1) it really doesn't do anything to make me believe the argument that being gay is a nurture and not nature thing.

Especially since this son was adopted...

Two: If God exists, maybe he does have a sense of humor...
 
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Does anyone else find it ironic that that Randall Terry is so absolutely devastated by being "sold out" by his son and then proceeds to turn around and list the faults of his son, who "he Loves"? Seems like Randall never read the part about turning the other cheek, and instead thinks it would be wise to slander his son in return. I also believe that the truth is probably somewhere in between Out and Randall's respective reports, undoubtably Out does have an "agenda" at hand and I wouldnt be suprised if the editor twisted the article in some way. I think Randall has a few ideas right, he hasnt disowned his son or ceased to "love" him supposedly, I think the real tragedy here is that Randall sees this as an end or a failure rather than one step in the difficult process of maintaining a lifelong relationship.

As for the nature vs. nurture argument I really have no idea which is the case, all I can say is that all my gay or bisexual friends that I have really come to know have had some sort of unhealthy relationship with their parents or some kind of traumatic sexual experience. Im not saying someone might not be predisposed to homosexuality, Im just making an observation and leaving it at that.
 

Spud

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Not that I’m going to change anyone’s views, but…

$tinkle – when we were told the story of the prodigal son it was a story of a father’s love and forgiveness. I don’t see that with the Terry family, but that in the title of his essay. Maybe I’m missing something, hmmm What Would Jesus Do?

Nick – I don’t follow your logic on special rights for gays vs. fat people, Fat people aren’t legally prevented from marrying. The act of overeating is not illegal in many states. Religious fanatics don’t show up with picket signs proclaiming “God Hates Fatsos”. We may have a fattist society, but the legal and social barriers don’t compare.

If Randall Terry had a fat kid who wrote an essay in Bon Appetite about coming to grips with his passion for pasta – I don’t think Mr. Terry would bar the kid from his house and write a rebuttal.
 

Andyman_1970

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Apr 4, 2003
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Originally posted by Spud
Religious fanatics don’t show up with picket signs proclaiming “God Hates Fatsos”. We may have a fattist society, but the legal and social barriers don’t compare.
Glutony is a sin ya know..........maybe I should get some signs and hang out in front of our brand new Krispy Kreme with my "God hates Fatso's" signs. I could be the Fred Phelps for fat folks.

NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:rolleyes:
 

$tinkle

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Feb 12, 2003
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Originally posted by Silver
There are also bisexuals, y'know.
are you actually trying to make the case that they are the mulatos? And where do cross-dressers & transgendered fit into your analogy?

i believe bisexuality could be used to make my case, if any case at all.
 

$tinkle

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Feb 12, 2003
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Originally posted by 911
Of course blacks experienced discrimination on a much larger scale, yet the mentality which it was based on is similar. Just because gays, or any other group for that matter, are not being lynched by the dozen, that's no excuse to deny them equal treatment under the law.
i agree absolutely that hate is the cause of this - or any - discrimination. F'rinstance, i hate pedophilia. I don't have to have a sit or get to know one so i can push aside my disdain for pedophelia.
Originally posted by 911
Yes, there is inherent plasticity in human sexulity, yet being gay (or bisexual, etc...) isn't just some decision you come to one day with the ability to "go back to being normal" any time you'd like. This is just the way some people are... they don't really have a choice in the matter, and as much as some people hate to admit, they have done nothing wrong and therefore deserve the same rights as anyone else.
i have yet to see scientific suggestion/theory (to say nothing of evidence) which supports sexual orientation as being anything other that what propogates the species. I'm in phillyvanilly's camp insomuch as we have predispositions toward certain behaviours (gambling & alcoholism come to mind), and trauma/neglect at a young age seems to be the common denominator among homosexuals to exploit these predispositions. Surely there's a thread here from the past 3 years on a nurture v nature debate. Surely.



<disclaimer>
i'm not a scientist, i just post mildly researched opinions.
</disclaimer>
 

$tinkle

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Originally posted by Silver
One: If the guy who fronts Operation Rescue can't raise a God fearing heterosexual, (and I know this isn't statistically significant, because the sample size is 1) it really doesn't do anything to make me believe the argument that being gay is a nurture and not nature thing.

Especially since this son was adopted...
just how pliable do you think an 8 year old is? You like scientific research. Do you not agree that our personalities & predispositions are all but set in stone by the time we're 2 or 3?

As far as nurture goes, it looks like he missed out on a whole lotta love in his formative years.
Originally posted by Silver
Two: If God exists, maybe he does have a sense of humor...
i think he does.
i'm sure he's laughing trying to watch evolutionists explain the platypus & bombadier beetle.

or 4,330 other examples in nature today
 

Silver

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Jul 20, 2002
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Originally posted by $tinkle
i agree absolutely that hate is the cause of this - or any - discrimination. F'rinstance, i hate pedophilia. I don't have to have a sit or get to know one so i can push aside my disdain for pedophelia.
Can we knock off this strawman? Homosexuality and pedophilia are two completely different things, and you know it. Stop trying to make a moral equivalence out of something that is clearly a consent issue.
 

RhinofromWA

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Aug 16, 2001
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Originally posted by Silver
Can we knock off this strawman? Homosexuality and pedophilia are two completely different things, and you know it. Stop trying to make a moral equivalence out of something that is clearly a consent issue.
I might be wrong but he might see it as wrong and less wrong. They are both wrong but to different degrees.

Sure they are different if you think are winning and argument on that basis than may I interject something else obvious too?

Just because they are different degrees of wrong to someone, doesn't detract from the fact that they are BOTH WRONG in their eyes. "Equal but different" I guess.....;)

While you object to the comparison....while apples and oranges to most they are still both fruit.
 

BurlyShirley

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Being gay is kind of like peeing in the sink, IMO. Sure, you could do it, but it just aint right.
 

Silver

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Originally posted by RhinofromWA
Just because they are different degrees of wrong to someone, doesn't detract from the fact that they are BOTH WRONG in their eyes. "Equal but different" I guess.....;)

While you object to the comparison....while apples and oranges to most they are still both fruit.
I think it's like trying to say:

rape=consensual sex

Which is clearly a ridiculous conclusion, even if you think that premarital sex is a no-no.
 

RhinofromWA

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Originally posted by Silver
I think it's like trying to say:

rape=consensual sex

Which is clearly a ridiculous conclusion, even if you think that premarital sex is a no-no.
IF someone views homosexuality as a sin (relgious reasons) or just icky (non-religious reasons) and that it is wrong to them. They can then put in on their bad/wrong side with other things. Even though it exists to a different degree it is wrong in their eyes.

Homosexuality to me? I am on the fence....I guess. I beleive people should do what they want, but also to expect some may dissagree with it. Do I think it is wrong to be homosexual....I am split. I am also accepting either way....it doesn't effect me all that much.

To YOU it is OK to be homosexual. To others it is not. There in lies your problem with people comparing the two. You have being a homosexual on the OK/good side....and pedophiles on the no-no/bad side.

Who's right? Both sides are, depending on who you ask. But be sure the "other" side will be wrong.
 

$tinkle

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Originally posted by Silver
Can we knock off this strawman? Homosexuality and pedophilia are two completely different things, and you know it. Stop trying to make a moral equivalence out of something that is clearly a consent issue.
so which was father goeghan guilty of?
 

$tinkle

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Originally posted by Silver
If I remember that one correctly, rape.

Is it somehow worse that he was molesting boys instead of girls?
agreed.
he was convicted of multiple counts over many years of acts which are both homosexual & pedopheliac(?) in content.

if they're both "completely different issues", then howsit that they're both present for every count?

is it worse? well, one is certainly easier to make into a scandal. I wonder how many molesting priests there would have been over the years if they were allowed to marry - essentially having more straight priests. Compare to any other religion that allows for married priests/elders/reverends, & see if we can find an inverse correlation.
 

911

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Originally posted by $tinkle
trauma/neglect at a young age seems to be the common denominator among homosexuals
Can you back that up with a scientific study of some sort? I'm not sure I'd agree with that blanket statement, but even so, how does this legitimize the descrimination of gays? If anything, you're inferring that they're victims, and therefore deserve nothing less than equal treatment.
 

911

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Originally posted by BurlySurly
Being gay is kind of like peeing in the sink, IMO. Sure, you could do it, but it just aint right.
Man... I think that's the worst analogy I've ever heard. :rolleyes: ;)
 

Silver

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Originally posted by $tinkle


if they're both "completely different issues", then howsit that they're both present for every count?

They shouldn't be. It should make no difference if his victims were male or female.

Once again, if Geogahn was having consensual sex with adult males, I could care less. There are plently of men of God who like to screw around on the side. That isn't the case here.

He was fvcking around with kids. Kids by definition who were intimidated by the authority figure (backed up by God, which makes it all the more reprehensible in my eyes) and could not consent.

See, completely different.
 

$tinkle

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Originally posted by 911
Can you back that up with a scientific study of some sort? I'm not sure I'd agree with that blanket statement
feel free to disagree with this until you're pink in the panties:

Two large studies asked homosexual respondents to explain the origins of their desires and behaviors - how they "got that way." The first of these studies was conducted by Kinsey in the 1940s and involved 1700 homosexuals. The second, in 1970, involved 979 homosexuals. Both were conducted prior to the period when the "gay rights" movement started to politicize the issue of homosexual origins. Both reported essentially the same findings: Homosexuals overwhelmingly believed their feelings and behavior were the result of social or environmental influences.
(J. Marmor, Homosexual Behavior, A Modern Reappraisal)

Now, you may find your own strawman here in that the subjects were offering what they "felt", but you must also come clean that you are merely doing the same. Appreciating that, let's look more closely:

In the 1980s, scholars examined the early Kinsey data to determine whether or not childhood sexual experiences predicted adult behavior. The results were significant: Homosexual experience in the early year, particularly if it was one's first sexual experience - was a strong predictor of adult homosexual behavior, both for males and females. A similar pattern appeared in the 1970 Kinsey Institute study: there was a strong relationship between those whose first experience was homosexual and those who practiced homosexuality in later life. In the FRI study two-thirds of the boys whose first experience was homosexual engaged in homosexual behavior as adults; 95% of those whose first experience was heterosexual were likewise heterosexual in their adult behavior. A similarly progressive pattern of sexual behavior was reported for females.
(PH Van Wyk, AP Bell Homosexualities: Their Range and Character, Nebraska Symposium on Motivation, P Cameron, K Cameron & K Proctor: Effect of Homosexuality upon public health and social order, 1989, Psychological Reports 64, 1167-1179)

Kinsey reported "less homosexual activity among devout groups whether they be Protestant, Catholic, or Jewish, and more homosexual activity among religiously less active groups." The 1983 FRI study found those raised in irreligious homes to be over 4 times more likely to become homosexual than those from devout homes. These studies suggest that when people believe strongly that homosexual behavior is immoral, they are significantly less apt to be involved in such activity.

Recently, because of the AIDS epidemic, it has been discovered that, relative to white males, twice as many black males are homosexual and 4 times as many are bisexual. Perhaps it is related to the fact that 62% of black versus 17% of white children are being raised in fatherless homes. But even the worst racist wouldn't suggest that it is due to genetic predisposition.
(Chu S, et al, AIDS in Bisexual Men in US Amer I Public Health 1992, 82, 200-224)

Were homosexual impulses truly inherited, we should be unable to find differences in homosexual practice due to religious upbringing or racial sub-culture.

In a large random sample 88% of women currently claiming lesbian attraction and 73% of men claiming to currently enjoy homosexual sex, said that they had been sexually aroused by the opposite sex,

  • 85% of these "lesbians" and 54% of these "homosexuals" reported sexual relations with someone of the opposite sex in adulthood
  • 67% of lesbians and 54% of homosexuals reported current sexual attraction to the opposite sex
  • 82% of lesbians and 66% of homosexuals reported having been in love with a member of the opposite sex.
(P Cameron, K Cameron & K Proctor: Effect of Homosexuality upon public health and social order, 1989, Psychological Reports 64, 1167-1179)

next, let's consider ex-homosexuals.

Many engage in one or two homosexual experiences and never do it again–a pattern reported for a third of the males with homosexual experience in one study. And then there are ex-homosexuals - those who have continued in homosexual liaisons for a number of years and then chose to change not only their habits, but also the object of their desire. Sometimes this alteration occurs as the result of psychotherapy; in others it is prompted by a religious or spiritual conversion. Similar to the kinds of "cures" achieved by drug addicts and alcoholics, these treatments do not always remove homosexual desire or temptation. Whatever the mechanism, in a 1984 study almost 2% of heterosexuals reported that at one time they considered themselves to be homosexual. It is clear that a substantial number of people are reconsidering their sexual preferences at any given time.
(AD Klassen, et. al. Sex and Morality in the US, Beiber et. al., Homosexuality: a Psychoanalytical Study, P Cameron, K Cameron, The Prevalence of Homosexuality 1992)
Originally posted by 911
, but even so, how does this legitimize the descrimination of gays? If anything, you're inferring that they're victims, and therefore deserve nothing less than equal treatment.
i just reviewed all my posts in this thread, and i cannot see where i could be construed as making such a statement as discrimination against gays is legitimate. If anything, i've set the stage to knock the catholic church leadership for allowing the potential for this scandalous event (refering to father geoghan)
 

911

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Originally posted by $tinkle
i just reviewed all my posts in this thread, and i cannot see where i could be construed as making such a statement as discrimination against gays is legitimate.
Well, maybe we have different conceptions of what constitutes discrimination, but I believe that denying someone the ability to legally marry based solely on their sexual orientation is a form of discrimination. Am I correct I assuming you don’t support gay marriage?

Anyway, thanks for posting the studies, interesting reading. I’ve read similar reports suggesting the opposite (nature rather than nurture) so it just goes to show how little we actually understand about the subject from a scientific standpoint.
 

BurlyShirley

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Originally posted by 911
Well, maybe we have different conceptions of what constitutes discrimination, but I believe that denying someone the ability to legally marry based solely on their sexual orientation is a form of discrimination. Am I correct I assuming you don’t support gay marriage?

Anyway, thanks for posting the studies, interesting reading. I’ve read similar reports suggesting the opposite (nature rather than nurture) so it just goes to show how little we actually understand about the subject from a scientific standpoint.
dont go whining about someone not posting info. and then not post any of your own.

also, i dont think the argument is about what constitutes descrimination, as even the term "sexual orientation" is open for debate here. a man is "sexually oriented" toward a woman. His mating apparatus is oriented to fit inside hers, period.
 

$tinkle

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Originally posted by 911
Well, maybe we have different conceptions of what constitutes discrimination, but I believe that denying someone the ability to legally marry based solely on their sexual orientation is a form of discrimination. Am I correct I assuming you don’t support gay marriage?
perhaps i am discriminatory against gays marrying. It is convenient there are legal guidelines for me to have this opinion. I am sure if there were none, i would feel the same way. Doesn't make me a bad person, does it? Just a bigot.

I'd be more for making marriage just a religious institution & take away all legal aspects of it. I don't have any beef w/ straights atheists getting married, so it would stand to reason that i wouldn't mind gays being married.

But, i still do. If for no other reason, because Silver is all for it.

Originally posted by 911
Anyway, thanks for posting the studies, interesting reading. I’ve read similar reports suggesting the opposite (nature rather than nurture) so it just goes to show how little we actually understand about the subject from a scientific standpoint.
there's a lot of sifting to do, and it's a rare person who keeps an open mind at all times. We all reach a threshold where we no longer need any more information to make an informed decision.
 

JRogers

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Hmmm....all of this talk is interesting. Should probably be pertinent to note that homosexuality is not a new invention, has been around and documented for thousands of years and has been a feature in many disparate societies. Further, most of the studies listed are questionable.

(J. Marmor, Homosexual Behavior, A Modern Reappraisal)---I would have to see more of this one to make a judgment but the relevant statement there is way too generally crafted to really mean anything significant. All depends on how the questions were asked and how this person is interpreting the data.

(PH Van Wyk, AP Bell Homosexualities: Their Range and Character, Nebraska Symposium on Motivation, P Cameron, K Cameron & K Proctor: Effect of Homosexuality upon public health and social order, 1989, Psychological Reports 64, 1167-1179)--- this establishes only a seemingly understandable correlation, not causality. Wow, homosexuals have homosexual experiences...never would have guessed.

"The 1983 FRI study found those raised in irreligious homes to be over 4 times more likely to become homosexual than those from devout homes. These studies suggest that when people believe strongly that homosexual behavior is immoral, they are significantly less apt to be involved in such activity."---- Yeah, and if you were told that being lefthanded was evil, you might try and be a righty too.




Homosexuality may not be "inherited" as certain traits are. However, I cannot agree that it's all environmental. That doesn't make complete sense as many people experience certain conditions but do not become homosexual or have homosexual desires. Not that that necessarily proves anything but the thought is interesting. Of course my experience is skewed but virtually all homosexuals I know or have met (most of whom are women) come from good homes with two parents. They are "normal" in all other senses. I like them and can't imagine telling them what they think and do is wrong or disgusting. To me, whether homosexuality is environmental or not is not even really the issue. Some people are and can't or won't be changed. Why fight it? I have no attraction to men and can't full understand what that would be like but I find that most people are against homosexuality because they simply cannot comprehend it and view it as a merely "surface" feature of someone created by the environment or because of (thinly based, questionable) religious convictions. The latter can be true whether one is a practicing member of a church or not given the prevalence and pervasiveness of Christianity in the West.