Any of you lot heard of Transactional Analysis? What about Ego States?
OK, Here is a brief explanation:
When engaging in a conversation (called a 'transaction', as in a communication transaction in this field) people broadly place themselves in one of three ego states.
The ego states are Parent, Adult and Child. When we have a conversation with anyone, about anything, we play the role of one of these three states, and so does the person we are conversing with.
(Very) Brief descriptions:
Child: Childish; Refusal to take points seriously; use of humour as defence/way to ignore points being made; deflection etc.
Parent: Talking down; stating points as 'facts'; 'This is the truth'; Imaging parents telling a 3 year old about boiling water and not grabbing pans off the stove; often seen as 'patronising' tone.
Adult: Use of rational part of brain to listen, contemplate, understand and reply rationally and without resorting to the other two states.
A genuine conversation can really only occur if both parties in the conversation are in the same ego state, and for most purposes, a productive and rational argument can only occur when both parties are in the Adult state.
More here: http://www.businessballs.com/transact.htm
So I was thinking, maybe we could all try and stick to our Adult state a little more in here, at least for the first few posts in a thread?
OK, Here is a brief explanation:
When engaging in a conversation (called a 'transaction', as in a communication transaction in this field) people broadly place themselves in one of three ego states.
The ego states are Parent, Adult and Child. When we have a conversation with anyone, about anything, we play the role of one of these three states, and so does the person we are conversing with.
(Very) Brief descriptions:
Child: Childish; Refusal to take points seriously; use of humour as defence/way to ignore points being made; deflection etc.
Parent: Talking down; stating points as 'facts'; 'This is the truth'; Imaging parents telling a 3 year old about boiling water and not grabbing pans off the stove; often seen as 'patronising' tone.
Adult: Use of rational part of brain to listen, contemplate, understand and reply rationally and without resorting to the other two states.
A genuine conversation can really only occur if both parties in the conversation are in the same ego state, and for most purposes, a productive and rational argument can only occur when both parties are in the Adult state.
More here: http://www.businessballs.com/transact.htm
So I was thinking, maybe we could all try and stick to our Adult state a little more in here, at least for the first few posts in a thread?