I have a friend / colleague who is a great guy, but is extremely overweight. He is in his early fifties about 5'10" and must weigh nearly 300lbs. There are several truly tragic aspects to his situation:
-He is a facking prince of a guy. He will truly do anything for anyone (friend, family, colleague, stranger on the street)...except, sadly, himself.
-I have seen pictures of him from his Army days and he was fit fit fit!
-He is at the point where the weight problem has gotten such that it hinders him from exercising more to keep it under control. (this statement, I suppose, shows my bias / philosophy, which is, essentially, be active and weight will take care of itself.)
-His wife has no concept of healthy diet or nutrition. (For reasons not relevant to this post, I spend a lot of time as an extended guest in their home and I really have to be on my guard about nutrition and activity level when visiting. After eating their meat and potatoes diet three meals a day, 7 days a week, I feel thick and lethargic myself.)
He recently "blew out his knee" and is even more limited in his activity. As he was telling me about this development, I nearly came right out and told him that he needed to do something about his weight, but I couldnt. In some respects he is a mentor to me and I couldn't quite bring myself to call a spade a spade.
Do you all think it is wise to confront him directly? I have spoken to his wife, and while she agrees, of course, that he is way overweight, she is incapable of taking real action.
If I do "confront" him about his weight, I would at least like to have some positive things to say. Some suggestions to make.
Any advice for me? It really tears me up to see this guy like this....
-He is a facking prince of a guy. He will truly do anything for anyone (friend, family, colleague, stranger on the street)...except, sadly, himself.
-I have seen pictures of him from his Army days and he was fit fit fit!
-He is at the point where the weight problem has gotten such that it hinders him from exercising more to keep it under control. (this statement, I suppose, shows my bias / philosophy, which is, essentially, be active and weight will take care of itself.)
-His wife has no concept of healthy diet or nutrition. (For reasons not relevant to this post, I spend a lot of time as an extended guest in their home and I really have to be on my guard about nutrition and activity level when visiting. After eating their meat and potatoes diet three meals a day, 7 days a week, I feel thick and lethargic myself.)
He recently "blew out his knee" and is even more limited in his activity. As he was telling me about this development, I nearly came right out and told him that he needed to do something about his weight, but I couldnt. In some respects he is a mentor to me and I couldn't quite bring myself to call a spade a spade.
Do you all think it is wise to confront him directly? I have spoken to his wife, and while she agrees, of course, that he is way overweight, she is incapable of taking real action.
If I do "confront" him about his weight, I would at least like to have some positive things to say. Some suggestions to make.
Any advice for me? It really tears me up to see this guy like this....