so my daughter's almost 15. she has a facebook account. it keeps her in touch with friends in CT as well as TX. it's set to private and only people she knows does she befriend. things have come a LONG way since the divorce and she not only befriended me but even listed me as her mom!!
she has not had the greatest relationship with her dad for many reasons...but she still befriended him as well. but mostly her account is for her to talk to HER friends.
well the other day she posted in her status "bullsh*t" (spelled out and nothing else) apparently she was pissed with something or someone so she wrote that.
well the ex decides to play dad and posts up two posts on her account for everyone to read. apparently he didn't like her using the word.
ok so he doesn't like her cursing on her account. but the fact is it's her account to talk to HER friends.
in her defense she is an A/B student. has no interest in smoking, drinking, doing drugs or sex. she has a boyfriend and they are going on 6 months now. it's her first and quite frankly he treats her sweetly and has actually grounded her. the two of them are on the same page regarding sex and want to go to college. both feel sex will ruin that dream. she doesn't lie to me. she doesn't always like my decisions but respects them. sure we joke and tease like "friends" but i am still very much her parent. i know where she is all the time and who and what she is doing. and even when she is being a complete bitch...give her a couple of days and she's apologizing.
what really upsets me about his post is this...
1. it should have been sent in an email to her and NOT on her page
2. no matter what he thinks of my parenting, should he really be talking crap about me like that?
he complains that she doesn't contact him. is this the way to go about it? and this is the same man that was completely inappropriate in what he shared with her (at 13) about our divorce. the same dad that thinks it's up to her at 15 to maintain their relationship.
so i ask...is it wrong for him to post something like that on her facebook or since he's dad he has the right to say whatever and wherever to her?
she has not had the greatest relationship with her dad for many reasons...but she still befriended him as well. but mostly her account is for her to talk to HER friends.
well the other day she posted in her status "bullsh*t" (spelled out and nothing else) apparently she was pissed with something or someone so she wrote that.
well the ex decides to play dad and posts up two posts on her account for everyone to read. apparently he didn't like her using the word.
If I used words like you do, my mother would have slapped the living hell out of me. Remember that you are not the parent here. You are a child and that is that. Until you are old enough to be on your own and fend for yourself you have no choice in the matter, Right is right and wrong is wrong. Your mother has stopped being your mother a long time ago now. She is your friend and that is wrong. A parent is not your friend. I am your father and you know I would not stand for such behavior. I am surprised at you and even the way your respond to my concerns. I could never act or speak to my parents in that manor. Your mother has just let you go wild. If I was there you could never go on and act this way around me ever. I am not your friend. I am your father so remember that and act accordingly when you speak and address me.
If you were living with me you would not be able to have a boyfriend at all at your age, but never the less it seems that you don't care because I am here and you are there. Remember it was not my choice that you are there and still there. You don't call, write or nothing unless I do first. We all have problems and to put it all on that is an excuse. I am going through hell here but I still take the time to call and write and do whatever I can for you. I sent somethings for you and you didn't even have the consideration to call and say thanks much less write and say thank you. Is this how you show appreciation? I am not gonna try anymore for you are showing me you don't care about me.
ok so he doesn't like her cursing on her account. but the fact is it's her account to talk to HER friends.
in her defense she is an A/B student. has no interest in smoking, drinking, doing drugs or sex. she has a boyfriend and they are going on 6 months now. it's her first and quite frankly he treats her sweetly and has actually grounded her. the two of them are on the same page regarding sex and want to go to college. both feel sex will ruin that dream. she doesn't lie to me. she doesn't always like my decisions but respects them. sure we joke and tease like "friends" but i am still very much her parent. i know where she is all the time and who and what she is doing. and even when she is being a complete bitch...give her a couple of days and she's apologizing.
what really upsets me about his post is this...
1. it should have been sent in an email to her and NOT on her page
2. no matter what he thinks of my parenting, should he really be talking crap about me like that?
he complains that she doesn't contact him. is this the way to go about it? and this is the same man that was completely inappropriate in what he shared with her (at 13) about our divorce. the same dad that thinks it's up to her at 15 to maintain their relationship.
so i ask...is it wrong for him to post something like that on her facebook or since he's dad he has the right to say whatever and wherever to her?