and I assume a few guys will pipe in.
Fiance' had to have her horse put down a week ago last Sunday. He broke his leg. My fiance is rightfully taking it hard. Jessah (fiance) has had Denny (horse) for over 15 years. All the time growing up.....he was a dear friend for her.
Problem is, I am 3,000 miles away in WA state and she is in Eastern PA. She is back home with family, so I am thankfull for that. I talk to her just about every night for around an hour....but I did that before Denny had to be put down.
Her parents and the place she was boarding Denny at for the last 15 plus years got her a 2yr old horse 6 days after Denny was put down. Jessah didn't handle that very well....she asked them, after running out crying, to take the horse back. She didn't lose a horse to ride, she lost a best friend.
What would you appreciate from your significant other at time like this?
I can't be their in a physical "cry on my shoulder" kind of way, and sending cards or gifts just doesn't seem right. I am there for her when she needs me but she is the type to just hermit when hit with something this big. She would prefer to handle this herself in her own way and does not appreciate the attention being given to her right now. But like anyone who cares about you people want to help in some way, even if the help is not wanted or asked for.
I just feal helpless at this end.
So I am just looking for ideas of what you would like to receive, or have happen after a major loss. I can weed out stuff Jessah probably won't appreciate, but I am pretty stalled out what to do.
1 cool idea Jessah and I came up with is a little locket for her to carry a picture of Denny and a bit of his mane on her and near her heart. I have looked into custom lockets and std ones and then having it engraved.
but I am running out of ideas.
Sorry for the rambling....
Rhino from WA
Fiance' had to have her horse put down a week ago last Sunday. He broke his leg. My fiance is rightfully taking it hard. Jessah (fiance) has had Denny (horse) for over 15 years. All the time growing up.....he was a dear friend for her.
Problem is, I am 3,000 miles away in WA state and she is in Eastern PA. She is back home with family, so I am thankfull for that. I talk to her just about every night for around an hour....but I did that before Denny had to be put down.
Her parents and the place she was boarding Denny at for the last 15 plus years got her a 2yr old horse 6 days after Denny was put down. Jessah didn't handle that very well....she asked them, after running out crying, to take the horse back. She didn't lose a horse to ride, she lost a best friend.
What would you appreciate from your significant other at time like this?
I can't be their in a physical "cry on my shoulder" kind of way, and sending cards or gifts just doesn't seem right. I am there for her when she needs me but she is the type to just hermit when hit with something this big. She would prefer to handle this herself in her own way and does not appreciate the attention being given to her right now. But like anyone who cares about you people want to help in some way, even if the help is not wanted or asked for.
I just feal helpless at this end.
So I am just looking for ideas of what you would like to receive, or have happen after a major loss. I can weed out stuff Jessah probably won't appreciate, but I am pretty stalled out what to do.
1 cool idea Jessah and I came up with is a little locket for her to carry a picture of Denny and a bit of his mane on her and near her heart. I have looked into custom lockets and std ones and then having it engraved.
but I am running out of ideas.
Sorry for the rambling....
Rhino from WA