i got into an argument with my roommate last night. he's barely here now that he has a g/f. he comes and stays 2 nights a week to spend it with his kids and then every other weekend with kids.
so last night he comes home in a mood to begin with. he comes upstairs and asks if i know about the gate being broken. i said no and we go out and look at it. he's in a pissy mood at this point. the bottom hinge of the gate broke. looks like it's pretty rusted and i guess wear and tear of opening the gate finally gave way. keep in mind...this house has had problems with it LONG before i started renting here.
anyhow of course he's pissed at my son for swinging the gate open too hard and busting it. mind you this hinge piece is thick solid metal. i find it hard to believe that in good condition it would have busted from a 7 yo boy swinging it open. so i basically brush it off to having a 7 yo boy who plays rough. i talk to kimani about remembering to take it easy on things especially since they don't belong to us. i also remind him about how it will be in texas too.
then he and his friends go over to the pool side to see what my roommate is now doing and he yells at them for going over to the pool side and how he doesn't want kimani's friend on that side of the yard. i call them over and remind them that while the pool is closed that they shouldn't play on that side. kimani's friend is 5 and they have their own pool. they are not there unsupervised but there because they wanted to see what he was doing...but whatever.
then before i can make it back into the house he comes out of the house to ask why his lawn chair is in the sunroom instead of the garage where it was originally. i tell him i borrowed it and he goes back into the house in a huff.
at this point i'm just pissed now that his anal retentive attitude is lashing out at me and the kids. he goes back in the house and is now in the laundry room. i bring HIS chair back down and put it in the garage and told him i thought it was the landlords. he mumbles about how he's just upset cause he hates to see things broken. i explain to him that i'm sure when his son was younger things got broken in the house and we go back and forth till finally he says he doesn't want to discuss this because it's not getting anywhere. i say fine and i leave to go upstairs. he mumbles how i'm always defending kimani. so i yell back "of course because he's my son". i avoided him the rest of the night. except at one point where i had gotten back from the store and came in through the garage so i could put kimani's bikes away and replace the beer i took from my roommate in his refrigerator. he sees that i've done this and asks how many beers i took. and then makes a sarcastic comment about how i don't know how to use a phone to ask.
i told him he has NEVER cared about me borrowing stuff in the year that i've been here and he knows i always replace it in full if not most times MORE than what i've taken. but suddenly NOW a year later when he's NEVER in the house, he wants me to call him everytime i need to borrow some sugar or milk or beer.
so at this point i've only got 6 weeks. and he's never around so it ended at that. and i chalk it up to the downside of sharing a house with someone...something i WON'T miss in Texas. but am i being too lacked or is he just being anal? things break. am i suppose to have my son play softly so that he never breaks anything or am i being irresponsible allowing my son to play rough like a boy and just deal with the things that get broken? in a year of living here he has broken the latch to the deck gate, this hinge on the yard gate and has messed around with the chipping concrete wall that is clearly eroding away. i don't think that's really THAT bad. but i don't know.
what do you think?
so last night he comes home in a mood to begin with. he comes upstairs and asks if i know about the gate being broken. i said no and we go out and look at it. he's in a pissy mood at this point. the bottom hinge of the gate broke. looks like it's pretty rusted and i guess wear and tear of opening the gate finally gave way. keep in mind...this house has had problems with it LONG before i started renting here.
anyhow of course he's pissed at my son for swinging the gate open too hard and busting it. mind you this hinge piece is thick solid metal. i find it hard to believe that in good condition it would have busted from a 7 yo boy swinging it open. so i basically brush it off to having a 7 yo boy who plays rough. i talk to kimani about remembering to take it easy on things especially since they don't belong to us. i also remind him about how it will be in texas too.
then he and his friends go over to the pool side to see what my roommate is now doing and he yells at them for going over to the pool side and how he doesn't want kimani's friend on that side of the yard. i call them over and remind them that while the pool is closed that they shouldn't play on that side. kimani's friend is 5 and they have their own pool. they are not there unsupervised but there because they wanted to see what he was doing...but whatever.
then before i can make it back into the house he comes out of the house to ask why his lawn chair is in the sunroom instead of the garage where it was originally. i tell him i borrowed it and he goes back into the house in a huff.
at this point i'm just pissed now that his anal retentive attitude is lashing out at me and the kids. he goes back in the house and is now in the laundry room. i bring HIS chair back down and put it in the garage and told him i thought it was the landlords. he mumbles about how he's just upset cause he hates to see things broken. i explain to him that i'm sure when his son was younger things got broken in the house and we go back and forth till finally he says he doesn't want to discuss this because it's not getting anywhere. i say fine and i leave to go upstairs. he mumbles how i'm always defending kimani. so i yell back "of course because he's my son". i avoided him the rest of the night. except at one point where i had gotten back from the store and came in through the garage so i could put kimani's bikes away and replace the beer i took from my roommate in his refrigerator. he sees that i've done this and asks how many beers i took. and then makes a sarcastic comment about how i don't know how to use a phone to ask.
i told him he has NEVER cared about me borrowing stuff in the year that i've been here and he knows i always replace it in full if not most times MORE than what i've taken. but suddenly NOW a year later when he's NEVER in the house, he wants me to call him everytime i need to borrow some sugar or milk or beer.
so at this point i've only got 6 weeks. and he's never around so it ended at that. and i chalk it up to the downside of sharing a house with someone...something i WON'T miss in Texas. but am i being too lacked or is he just being anal? things break. am i suppose to have my son play softly so that he never breaks anything or am i being irresponsible allowing my son to play rough like a boy and just deal with the things that get broken? in a year of living here he has broken the latch to the deck gate, this hinge on the yard gate and has messed around with the chipping concrete wall that is clearly eroding away. i don't think that's really THAT bad. but i don't know.
what do you think?