agreed...i HATE forced expectations, luckily, my wife understands my disdain for the holiday and doesn't expect anything "traditional." we just use it as a mandatory date night, or, if i'm on duty, she'll do a ride-along with me at work. we're going to a nice restaurant with friends this year and then i'm leaving for a 2 week school when we get home sunday night.I would MUCH rather receive a random bunch of Lilies (my favorite flower) any other day of the year
(disclaimer -- we have a 4 year old so we do the school Valentine card exchange thing).