[Capt. Jack Sparrow]

One day about two months ago I saw this guy who works on my floor at work getting out of some sort of sporty convertible. We say "hi" to each other (out of courtesy on my part), so I was like, "Oh, nice car for the springtime." Just now we ran into each other and he said he's been meaning to ask me something. So he asks me if I want to go out to lunch and go for a ride in his car! I was like, "Um, I don't really go out at lunchtime because I stay at my desk through lunch... but maybe." I said "maybe" to be nice, but I really don't have time to go farting around in some stranger's car at lunchtime. If I work through lunch (and not take a lunch) I can leave work a half-hour earlier, and go home quicker to my sweetheart.

I mean, I didn't know what to say! Was he hitting on me? Or am I just assuming he is?

I have to ask because I'm a lesbian. And I don't pick up on guys' signals very well. What do you all think? And how can I handle it when I see him next? I have no interest in even being his friend. He's weird.

 

[Jayridesacove]

Just ignore him

 

[JRB]

Send me naked pics and I will decide.

 

[I Are Baboon]

He was hitting on you.

I had a dude hit on me once. "That's nice cologne you're wearing" is not something one dude should say to another dude.

 

[rpk1988]

Yea I would say that he is hitting on you. What kind of car is it? If its real nice, ask him if you can drive it and go burn all the rubber off his tires and then say you arent interested.

 

[douglas]

yes.

just tell him, you would but being your lesbian GF might find out, and she would get mad, being your are bisexual and shes the jealous type

 

[bluebug32]

Yeah, I'd say you were getting hit on. He probably won't have the balls to ask you again if you were obviously lukewarm about it. You don't work in the same office, right?

 

[H8R]

And how can I handle it when I see him next? I have no interest in even being his friend. He's weird.

Just say, "No thank you, I think your weird."

Easy.

 

[douglas]

Just say, "No thank you, I think your weird."

Easy.

hey, thats what all the chicks tell me :dancing:


LOL

 

[MTB_Rob_NC]

Yes you were being hit on.

Tell him yes you want to go for a ride, but only if you can stop some where and bang him sensless.


Then say... Just kidding you loser

 

[Andyman_1970]

Yeah you've been hit on............

 

[narlus]

He was hitting on you.

I had a dude hit on me once. "That's nice cologne you're wearing" is not something one dude should say to another dude.

wearing cologne isn't something a dude should do.

 

[Echo]

If I get a convertible will you and your GF go for a ride with me at lunchtime? :devil:

 

[ncrider]

Hey I'm a lesbian too! Wanna go one a date? Yes I'm hitting on you. :heart:

 

[H8R]

Probably not a good idea either to tell him you're a lesbian and not interested. He'll hit on you everyday, and ask you to bring your sweety.

 

[Secret Squirrel]

Say "Sure, but your the one who's going to go for a ride cause I'm the man in my relationships!"

That'll get a real good reaction!!!

 

[stinkyboy]

I had a guy "prance" into the office yesterday asking if we needed office supplies, and I replied "No, we're straight" (meaning we're good), and he put his hand on his hip, got pissed and marched out. Kinda funny.

 

[LordOpie]

Were you being hit on?

 

[H8R]

He was hitting on you.

I had a dude hit on me once. "That's nice cologne you're wearing" is not something one dude should say to another dude.

Your fault. Wearing cologne is like wearing a sign that says, "Hey, I like man ass!"

 

[firetoole]

tell him to meet you for lunch at your office/cube naked and then tell your boss some guy is stalking you

 

[hooples3]

yep id say he wants you...
but in your next coversation casually bring up your Girlfriend.. I think his reaction will say it all.. so bring a camera

 

[OGRipper]

Um, how about "No thanks, I'm just not interested"? You know, simple, direct, and honest? Foreign concept for many I know, but try it, it works.

Keep saying "maybe" and you'll have a stalker on your hands.

 

[robdamanii]

You got hit on.

 

[OGRipper]

yep id say he wants you...
but in your next coversation casually bring up your Girlfriend.. I think his reaction will say it all.. so bring a camera

Actually, lots of straight guys will be MORE interested if you try that. They just don't understand. If you tell them you're a lesbian they immediately think "Sweet, now maybe I can get some group sex." Or "Sweet, now here's a real challenge. There's no way she can resist me and my studliness."

 

[hooples3]

Actually, lots of straight guys will be MORE interested if you try that. They just don't understand. If you tell them you're a lesbian they immediately think "Sweet, now maybe I can get some group sex." Or "Sweet, now here's a real challenge. There's no way she can resist me and my studliness."

yeah, I would imagine that after hearing that his mind would be going a mile a minute thinking of all the possibilities. But i think he would come to realize that a lesbian is into women only and that he doesnt have a shot in the world

 

[Capt. Jack Sparrow]

Um, how about "No thanks, I'm just not interested"? You know, simple, direct, and honest? Foreign concept for many I know, but try it, it works.

Keep saying "maybe" and you'll have a stalker on your hands.

I see your point, of course. But when you're at work and get seemingly hit-on by someone who could be a director in a nearby department, well, I just didn't want to come off as rude in any way. But you're right, not interested is not interested, nothing more, nothing less. He should be the one who should worry about being rude, not me.

I painted a "not very interested" picture, though, by asking, "Which car do you have? I'm sorry, I don't remember your car."

 

[OGRipper]

I see your point, of course. But when you're at work and get seemingly hit-on by someone who could be a director in a nearby department, well, I just didn't want to come off as rude in any way. But you're right, not interested is not interested, nothing more, nothing less. He should be the one who should worry about being rude, not me.

I painted a "not very interested" picture, though, by asking, "Which car do you have? I'm sorry, I don't remember your car."

Yeah the whole co-worker dynamic makes it harder for sure. You want to be friendly but still gotta make your point and nip it in the bud early, that can really help avoid a lot of awkwardness. If he presses you can say you're flattered but in an exclusive relationship. You shouldn't need to get into your orientation whether you are out or not. Plus I know straight women that tell men they are gay just to avoid saying they're not interested, so he might not even believe you.

 

[El Jefe]

Wait, let me get this straight...the guy asked if you wanted to go for a ride in his convertible? Yeah, he was hitting on you....poorly, but definitely hitting on you. Tell him that since you're a lesbian, at first you weren't at all attracted to him...but when you found out he drove a chick car, it made you imagine him in a school-girl outfit and thigh-hi stockings and his repulsiveness was relaced with sickly humorous image of him in school-girl drag.

 

[johnbryanpeters]

Um, how about "No thanks, I'm just not interested"? You know, simple, direct, and honest? Foreign concept for many I know, but try it, it works.

Keep saying "maybe" and you'll have a stalker on your hands.

Be direct.

 

[DHS]

yes it was a lame pick up line.

um, i always thought you were a guy...

 

[Cooter Brown]

I had a guy "prance" into the office yesterday asking if we needed office supplies, and I replied "No, we're straight" (meaning we're good), and he put his hand on his hip, got pissed and marched out. Kinda funny.

HA!!

funniest shiz I have read in a while nice one

 

[Andy_B]

Just tell him your not interested

Send me naked pics and I will decide.

You want nikked pics of a dude?

 

[DRB]

You should just lead him on.... what's the worse that could happen?

 

[Slugman]

Wait, let me get this straight...the guy asked if you wanted to go for a ride in his convertible? Yeah, he was hitting on you....poorly, but definitely hitting on you. Tell him that since you're a lesbian, at first you weren't at all attracted to him...but when you found out he drove a chick car, it made you imagine him in a school-girl outfit and thigh-hi stockings and his repulsiveness was relaced with sickly humorous image of him in school-girl drag.

Sprite meet my monitor, monitor - this is Sprite.

Nice to have you back El Jefe

 

[dh girlie]

Having just gone through some pretty extensive harrassment awareness training...that guy was totally outta line saying that...in fact, you compliment someone on what they are wearing, that can be construed as harrassment...

 

[Reactor]

...in fact, you compliment someone on what they are wearing, that can be construed as harrassment...

Only if it's part of a pervasive hostile workplace environment, or had obvious sexual overtones to the point a reasonable person.....

 

[robdamanii]

Having just gone through some pretty extensive harrassment awareness training...that guy was totally outta line saying that...in fact, you compliment someone on what they are wearing, that can be construed as harrassment...

Or she could just introduce him to her "Camelback reservoir" aka huge douchebag....

 

[fanatical]

Isn't it a shame he thought that line would work. I have to say I'm glad there are guys out there like him, it makes my life so much easier.

 

[douglas]

Having just gone through some pretty extensive harrassment awareness training...that guy was totally outta line saying that...in fact, you compliment someone on what they are wearing, that can be construed as harrassment...

what a crock


if I told one of the harrassment awareness trainers that I was going o shove my bikes seatpost up their arse, would that be harrassment?

 

[robdamanii]

what a crock


if I told one of the harrassment awareness trainers that I was going o shove my bikes seatpost up their arse, would that be harrassment?

Hey now...don't kid. That almost happened to me last weekend. I didn't particularly enjoy it either. :mumble: