Keep in mind as you read this that I'm talking about the mother/brother/sisters of Alaina, so if you reply, please keep it clean.
As many of you can imagine, after losing Alaina, lots of things get magnified, and that could be to my wanting things to go in a very specific way (yes, I've become anal about how things get done and getting things done). Why is it so dang difficult to hold the stepkids accountable for their actions/responsibilities, and why does wifey have such a wall against me in holding them accountable? Do I sit down and talk with them? Encourage them? Not to the level I should, and I feel this is due to the "I want it now" mentality of them, and not "what can I do to for the parents to make things a bit easier". I had to go into the daughters' rooms the other week, and I couldn't see the carpet because of all their crap on the floor. Stepson has still not worked on a truck he bought 3 months ago, and it's still parked in front of our house. His stuff is taking up way too much space in our garage instead of using his storage unit he rents.
I know what many of you will say-- "Grow a pair, continue to be the bad guy, and hold them accountable, or move out". Trouble is, I truly believe in the vows "through thick and thin". How much thinner can it get? Maybe I should just cut my losses and leave. Maybe I should stick around and press my feelings/expectations on them. Or maybe.............
I have left a boatload of details out, however, I feel you get the idea. I'm probably being a whiny Sally, though it does feel better to get this out instead of stewing about it the rest of the day.
Too bad I'm at work, 'cuz a ride would feel really good about now...............
As many of you can imagine, after losing Alaina, lots of things get magnified, and that could be to my wanting things to go in a very specific way (yes, I've become anal about how things get done and getting things done). Why is it so dang difficult to hold the stepkids accountable for their actions/responsibilities, and why does wifey have such a wall against me in holding them accountable? Do I sit down and talk with them? Encourage them? Not to the level I should, and I feel this is due to the "I want it now" mentality of them, and not "what can I do to for the parents to make things a bit easier". I had to go into the daughters' rooms the other week, and I couldn't see the carpet because of all their crap on the floor. Stepson has still not worked on a truck he bought 3 months ago, and it's still parked in front of our house. His stuff is taking up way too much space in our garage instead of using his storage unit he rents.
I know what many of you will say-- "Grow a pair, continue to be the bad guy, and hold them accountable, or move out". Trouble is, I truly believe in the vows "through thick and thin". How much thinner can it get? Maybe I should just cut my losses and leave. Maybe I should stick around and press my feelings/expectations on them. Or maybe.............
I have left a boatload of details out, however, I feel you get the idea. I'm probably being a whiny Sally, though it does feel better to get this out instead of stewing about it the rest of the day.
Too bad I'm at work, 'cuz a ride would feel really good about now...............